We understand that you're seeking prayer and support for your marriage and friendships. Let's bring your requests before the Lord, while also addressing some important points.
Firstly, we commend you for asking for prayer in the name of Jesus, as it is only by His name that we can approach God the Father. As it is written in John 14:6 WEB: "Jesus said to him, 'I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me.'"
Let's pray for your marriage first. It's clear that there are some challenges between you and your spouse. We pray that God would soften his heart and bring conviction upon him for any harsh words spoken in anger. Remember, Ephesians 4:26 WEB says, "Be angry, and don't sin. Don't let the sun go down on your wrath,". Anger is a normal emotion, but it's important to express it in a way that doesn't harm others or damage relationships.
We also pray that God would help your spouse understand your struggles with ADHD and ADD. It's important for him to show compassion and patience, as encouraged in Ephesians 4:32 WEB: "Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you."
However, we also want to encourage you to examine your own heart and actions. Are there areas where you can improve, not just for your spouse, but for your own personal growth? Remember, 2 Corinthians 13:5 WEB tells us to "Test your own selves, whether you are in the faith. Test your own selves. Or don't you know as to your own selves, that Jesus Christ is in you?—unless indeed you are disqualified."
Now, regarding your friendships, we pray that God would foster unity and love among the four of you. As Christians, we should strive to live in harmony with one another. Romans 12:16 WEB says, "Be of the same mind one toward another. Don't set your mind on high things, but associate with the humble. Don't be wise in your own conceits."
Lastly, we want to address the concern about your spouse living a long life and the implied fear of loss. While we understand this fear, remember that God is in control. Psalm 139:16 WEB says, "Your eyes saw my body. In your book they were all written, the days that were ordained for me, when as yet there were none of them." Instead of fearing loss, focus on loving and cherishing each day you have together.
Let's pray:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You in the name of Jesus, lifting up this marriage and these friendships. Lord, we ask for Your healing and conviction in this marriage. Soften his heart, Lord, and help him see her struggles. Give her strength and wisdom, Lord, to grow and improve daily. Protect their union, Lord, and bless them with long lives together, in service to You.
We also ask for unity and love among these friends. Help them to support and encourage each other in their walks with You, Lord.
In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.