My spouse and I don't trust each other and it's destroying us.

LilRedFox89 · 2025-01-31T00:58:49-0600

My husband and I have lost all trust in our relationship due to things we have both done in during our marriage.. but we separated 7months ago and me and our 3 yr old moved in with my parents. And I did hang out one time with a man that was married to my best friend (who was murdered a yr ago.) and one thing did happen between he and I and I stopped it immediately.. well now bc of what has happened in the past and bc of rumors spread by people who saw a chance to cause more problems between us in hopes of destroying us for good... He thinks there is more that I'm not telling him.. and he is willing to end it all unless I am "straight up and honest with him".. I have been completely honest I promise on my very life.. and I don't want to lose him over something that never happened.. please please I need help and prayer so bad...

Articles · 2025-01-31T01:01:07-0600

We are truly saddened to hear about the struggles you and your husband are facing in your marriage. Trust is a fundamental pillar of any relationship, and it's clear that both of you have experienced breaches of this trust in the past. However, it's encouraging that you both are seeking to rebuild what has been broken.

Firstly, let's address the issue of mistrust. The Bible tells us in Proverbs 3:5-6 WEB, "Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight." It's crucial to understand that rebuilding trust starts with a wholehearted commitment to God and His principles.

Regarding the incident with your deceased friend's husband, it's important to acknowledge that what happened was wrong. The Bible clearly states in Proverbs 6:32 WEB, "But whoever commits adultery with another man’s wife, he who commits adultery with his neighbor’s wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death." While the consequences may not be physical death, the spiritual and emotional consequences can be severe. It's commendable that you stopped the encounter immediately, but it's also important to repent sincerely and seek God's forgiveness.

Now, let's address the rumors and your husband's ultimatum. It's understandable that he feels hurt and suspicious, but his demand for total transparency should not come from a place of threat but from a desire to heal and move forward. In Ephesians 4:32 WEB, we are told to "be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you."

Let's pray together:

Dear Heavenly Father,

We come before You, lifting up Chreirael and her husband. Lord, their marriage is in crisis, and they need Your divine intervention. We pray for a spirit of forgiveness and trust to be restored in their relationship. Guide them as they navigate through this difficult time, and help them to be honest and transparent with each other.

Lord, we also pray for protection against rumors and those who seek to cause division. We rebuke the spirit of suspicion and mistrust, and we ask for Your healing power to be at work in their marriage.

We also pray for Chreirael, that You would forgive her for the incident with her friend's husband and help her to forgive herself. Give her the strength to resist temptation in the future, and guide her as she seeks to rebuild trust with her husband.

Finally, Lord, we pray that Chreirael and her husband would keep You at the center of their marriage. Help them to trust in You with all their hearts and to lean not on their own understanding. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.

Lastly, we want to encourage you to keep praying and seeking God's will for your marriage. Remember, it is only by the name of Jesus that we can be saved.

hostadmin · 2025-01-31T01:04:12-0600

We're here for you, sis. We know this situation is heavy, but remember, God is in the business of mending broken trust and restoring relationships. Let's keep our eyes on Him.

We've been where you are, feeling the weight of past mistakes and the strain of mistrust. But we've also seen God's faithfulness in healing marriages and restoring joy. It's a journey, but He's right there with you, every step of the way.

Let's not forget, we're all works in progress. None of us is perfect, and that's okay. The important thing is that we're honest with ourselves, with each other, and with God. He already knows our hearts, and He loves us despite our flaws.

We're praying for you and your husband. We're asking God to fill your hearts with love, patience, and understanding. We're asking Him to help you both communicate openly and honestly, to rebuild that trust brick by brick. We're also asking Him to protect you from rumors and those who want to cause harm.

Remember, God is the ultimate judge, not us. We can't control what others say or think, but we can control how we respond. Let's focus on what we can change - our own hearts and actions.

Keep trusting in God, even when it's hard. Keep seeking Him, even when you don't see immediate results. He sees you, He hears you, and He's working all things together for your good.

We're here for you, cheering you on. You're not alone in this fight. Let's keep praying, keep trusting, and keep moving forward, one day at a time. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.

LilRedFox89 · 2025-01-31T01:08:17-0600

Articles said:
We are truly saddened to hear about the struggles you and your husband are facing in your marriage. Trust is a fundamental pillar of any relationship, and it's clear that both of you have experienced breaches of this trust in the past. However, it's encouraging that you both are seeking to rebuild what has been broken.

Firstly, let's address the issue of mistrust. The Bible tells us in Proverbs 3:5-6 WEB, "Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight." It's crucial to understand that rebuilding trust starts with a wholehearted commitment to God and His principles.

Regarding the incident with your deceased friend's husband, it's important to acknowledge that what happened was wrong. The Bible clearly states in Proverbs 6:32 WEB, "But whoever commits adultery with another man’s wife, he who commits adultery with his neighbor’s wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death." While the consequences may not be physical death, the spiritual and emotional consequences can be severe. It's commendable that you stopped the encounter immediately, but it's also important to repent sincerely and seek God's forgiveness.

Now, let's address the rumors and your husband's ultimatum. It's understandable that he feels hurt and suspicious, but his demand for total transparency should not come from a place of threat but from a desire to heal and move forward. In Ephesians 4:32 WEB, we are told to "be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you."

Let's pray together:

Dear Heavenly Father,

We come before You, lifting up Chreirael and her husband. Lord, their marriage is in crisis, and they need Your divine intervention. We pray for a spirit of forgiveness and trust to be restored in their relationship. Guide them as they navigate through this difficult time, and help them to be honest and transparent with each other.

Lord, we also pray for protection against rumors and those who seek to cause division. We rebuke the spirit of suspicion and mistrust, and we ask for Your healing power to be at work in their marriage.

We also pray for Chreirael, that You would forgive her for the incident with her friend's husband and help her to forgive herself. Give her the strength to resist temptation in the future, and guide her as she seeks to rebuild trust with her husband.

Finally, Lord, we pray that Chreirael and her husband would keep You at the center of their marriage. Help them to trust in You with all their hearts and to lean not on their own understanding. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.

Lastly, we want to encourage you to keep praying and seeking God's will for your marriage. Remember, it is only by the name of Jesus that we can be saved.

The thing is me and my best friends husband did not sleep together... I'm not going to say what did happen but it wasnt sex or oral sex.. it does have to do with my shirt being raised but that's all I'm going to say... And by my husband's own admission a week after I went to my parents he got oral sex from another woman.. the problem we have right now is that even tho I have told the complete truth he doesn't believe it ... He is convinced or has convinced himself that something more happened maybe not with my best friends husband but something definitely happened with someone.. and it didn't.. he is wrong.. but I don't know what to do to prove to him I'm being honest and I have prayed and begged and cried to God so many times and I feel like he can't hear me or something..

I am She · 2025-01-31T01:24:27-0600

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name.

LilRedFox89 · 2025-01-31T01:29:09-0600

I do just want to say thank u to everyone who has prayed already and those who will pray.. thank u so much and God bless all of u.. I can't tell u how alone I feel and have felt lately and I'm hurting so bad for so many reasons..

Windwold · 2025-01-31T09:05:32-0600

Praying for you and your husband in Jesus'name, Amen

usha rani · 2025-01-31T09:35:38-0600

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name.

Cinu · 2025-01-31T15:06:03-0600

Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

Help in Prayer

Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)

Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)

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The Encourager · 2025-01-31T15:07:59-0600

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, soul, mind, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, and Your righteousness. Help and strengthen me God to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me. Deliver and cleansed me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the grace and knowledge of Christ Jesus. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by Encourager Linda Flagg, M.A., Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.