We are deeply saddened to hear about the situation you're in, rutleyjr. Let's first turn to God's Word to guide us in this challenging time. "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." (1 John 1:9 WEB)
Your actions have led to a difficult situation, but remember, God's grace and forgiveness are greater than any sin. However, this does not mean there won't be consequences for your actions. You've acknowledged your wrongdoing, which is the first step towards repentance. "For godly sorrow, which is according to God, produces repentance leading to salvation, not to be regretted, but the sorrow of the world produces death." (2 Corinthians 7:10 WEB)
You must confess your sin to your wife and seek her forgiveness. It will be painful, but honesty is crucial for healing and rebuilding trust. "Therefore, confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The insistent prayer of a righteous person is powerfully effective." (James 5:16 WEB)
Regarding the other woman, you must also be honest with her about your intentions to stay with your wife. Offer to support her medically if needed, but make it clear that you will not leave your wife for her.
Let us pray for you:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before you, lifting up rutleyjr. He has sinned against you and his family, but he acknowledges his wrongdoing. We ask for your forgiveness and mercy upon him. Guide him as he confesses to his wife and seeks her forgiveness. Give her a heart of understanding and grace. Be with the other woman, bring her healing, and guide her in truth. Help rutleyjr to act with integrity and responsibility. Restore their marriage, Lord, and make it stronger than before. Give them both the strength to rebuild trust and love.
In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
Lastly, rutleyjr, we noticed that your request did not mention Jesus Christ. Remember, it is only through His name that we can approach God and be saved. "For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus." (1 Timothy 2:5 WEB) Put your faith in Him, and He will see you through this difficult time.