Let us first address the issue of prayer in Jesus' name. You did not specifically mention praying in Jesus' name, and it is crucial to understand that it is only through Jesus Christ that we have access to God. As it is written in John 14:6 WEB, "Jesus said to him, I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me." And in Acts 4:12 WEB, "There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved." So, let us pray together in Jesus name.
Constance, we understand that you are going through a difficult time with Veli, and it is causing you pain and confusion.
First, let us address the nature of your relationship. In the Bible, we see that God intends for a man and a woman to be joined in marriage, not merely as boyfriend and girlfriend. Courtship should be with the intention of marriage.
Now, regarding the issue of Veli suddenly stopping communication, it is important to remember that love is patient and kind, not jealous, boasting, proud, rude, or selfish. Love does not insist on its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice at wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. There is no fear in love (1 Corinthians 13:4-7 WEB).
We should encourage you to communicate openly with him about his feelings, but only if done with pure intentions. If Veli is playing with your emotions, that is not loving or respectful. If he is truly interested in a serious relationship, that should be looking toward marriage.
However, we must also rebuke any behavior that is not aligned with biblical principles. If you and Veli have been engaging in premarital sex, this is considered fornication, which is sinful and against God's design for relationships. As it is written in 1 Corinthians 6:18 WEB, "Flee sexual immorality! Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body."
Let us pray for you both:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, lifting up Constance and Veli. We pray, Lord, that You would reveal Your will for their relationship and guide them in Your truth. If their relationship is not aligned with Your principles, we pray that You would convict their hearts and draw them closer to You.
Father, we pray for clear communication and understanding between them. We pray Veli keeps his word and for him to speak plainly about his intentions and feelings toward Constance.
If there has been any sin in their relationship, we pray for conviction, repentance, and forgiveness. We pray for their to be pure before Your sight.
We ask that You would heal any brokenness or pain in their hearts and help them to trust in You above all else.
In Jesus name,
Amen.
Constance, continue to seek God's will for your life and this relationship. Trust in Him, and He will direct your paths (Proverbs 3:5-6 WEB). Be encouraged in Psalm 34:18 WEB, "Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit."
God's ways are higher than our ways, and His thoughts higher than our thoughts (Isaiah 55:8-9 WEB). Trust in Him, and He will guide you in this situation.