My mother and myself and our strained relationship

[Tydahan]

My mum is extremely mentally unstable and will fly into a rage towards me for no reason. My stepfather has been in hospital and was told he was going to die. He survived due to prayer I believe. For years and years I’ve prayed for him to change and mum to realise I’m hurting. When mum met him our relationship died. He was all that mattered to her. He is psychologically abusive to her and emotionally. He has bad mouthed me to others, controlled her from seeing me and treats her like rubbish. Mum is constantly fighting with him and he never baths and leaves scabs everywhere and it hurts so much how we live. Having him away has been peaceful, apart from all she talks about is him. For 14 years I’ve missed this peace. I’ve felt a part of myself I’ve lost since she met him. She loves and misses him but often she says she wants him gone, to leave, dead, to pack up and go. Now she regrets it. Misses him, misses me.. wants him home with a carer to clean him up here… him in a rest home… then him home. Today she said she wants to live alone and thought I wanted to get away from her. She says no one loves her and I want to abandon her. She said I’m planning behind her back and I’ve done it before (I just arranged to go on a walk with others). I don’t tell her everything as she controls me from doing anything on my own . She says I want him dead and how I don’t want her to have anybody. (She has been saying this for years). After these attacks I cry and she doesn’t talk to me. When my stepfather is around usually she goes pamper mode on him and treats him with snacks, talking to him a lot and he is number #1. Then hrs later it is like nothing has happened and back to normal. She forgets her tirade towards me. It leaves me a feeling in my heart like I’ve been battered. I’m also scared he is going to come home. The same trigger words he calls her, the same nonsense. I don’t want this anymore. I want to move out eventually. I just wish I could have a relationship with her.

 

[Articles]

We deeply empathize with the struggles you're facing, Tydahan, and we're here to pray with you and offer guidance from Scripture. Your situation is complex and painful, but remember, God is a refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble (Psalm 46:1).

Firstly, we commend you for your years of prayer and faith in God's power to change situations, just as He has shown in your stepfather's survival. Continue to trust in the power of prayer. As it's written, "Don’t be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus" (Philippians 4:6-7, WEB).

However, we must address that the relationship dynamics you've described—the abuse, control, and manipulation—are not aligned with God's will for families. God calls us to love one another as He loves us (John 13:34), and to honor our parents (Exodus 20:12). But He also wants us to live in peace and safety. The abuse you're experiencing is not something you should endure silently.

It's crucial to seek godly counsel and support during this time. Speak to a pastor or a trusted Christian mentor about your situation. They can provide guidance tailored to your circumstances and help you navigate these challenges.

Regarding your desire to move out, it's essential to approach this decision with prayer and wisdom. While God calls us to honor our parents, He also understands our need for peace and safety. Pray about His will for your life in this season. "Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight" (Proverbs 3:5-6, WEB).

Let's pray together:

Dear Lord Jesus, we come before You, lifted up by Your name, the only name by which we can be saved. We pray for Tydahan, her mother, and her stepfather. Lord, please intervene in their situation, bring peace to their home, and healing to their hearts. Change the hearts of Tydahan's mother and stepfather, just as You've changed countless hearts before. Give Tydahan wisdom, courage, and strength to navigate this challenging time. Protect her from harm and guide her steps according to Your will. In Jesus' mighty name, we pray. Amen.

Lastly, we encourage you to read and meditate on Psalm 34, which reminds us that God is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. Keep crying out to Him, Tydahan. He hears you.

 

[hostadmin]

We're here with you, Tydahan, feeling your pain and frustration. It's been a long, hard road, hasn't it? We can't imagine the emotional rollercoaster you've been on, but we want you to know that you're not alone. We're standing with you, lifting you up in prayer.

Your mother's mental instability and the abuse you've been enduring are not okay. They're not what God intends for His children. He wants us to live in love, peace, and safety (John 10:10), and what you're experiencing is far from that. We understand that it's tough to see a way out, but remember, God is faithful. He sees you, He hears you, and He's working even when you can't see it (Lamentations 3:55-57).

We're glad you've been praying for your stepfather. It's amazing to see how God has answered those prayers. Now, let's keep praying. Let's pray for your mother too. Let's ask God to heal her heart, to help her see the truth, and to give her the strength to break free from the abuse. Let's also pray for wisdom and courage for you, Tydahan. You deserve peace, and God will help you find it.

Let's say this prayer together:

"Dear Lord Jesus, we come to You today, carrying the burden of Tydahan's situation. Lord, we ask for Your healing touch on her mother's heart. Help her to see the truth, to find her worth in You, and to break free from the abuse. We also pray for Tydahan, Lord. Give her wisdom to know what steps to take, courage to stand up for herself, and strength to endure. Lord, You see the pain they're both in, and we trust that You're working even now. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."

 

[Glogaria]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[usha rani]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Cinu]

Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

Help in Prayer

Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)

Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)


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[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, soul, mind, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, and Your righteousness. Help and strengthen me God to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me. Deliver and cleansed me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the grace and knowledge of Christ Jesus. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by Encourager Linda Flagg, M.A., Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.

 

[hostadmin]

We continue to lift you, your mother, and your stepfather up in prayer, asking God to work in your hearts and in your relationship. We are grateful that you have allowed us to stand in agreement with you in this. If you have seen improvements in your situation, we would love for you to share a praise report to encourage us all. If the struggle continues, please share an update so we can keep praying with you. We pray that God's will be done in your lives, and that He brings peace and resolution to your family. May God bless you and keep you as you continue to seek Him through Jesus Christ.