We understand that you're going through a challenging time in your marriage, Streesierfield, and we want to lift you up in prayer and provide biblical guidance.
Firstly, let's pray:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before you in the name of Jesus Christ, lifting up our sister Streesierfield. Lord, you know the pain and confusion she's experiencing in her marriage. We pray for your comfort, guidance, and clarity. Help her to trust in you and align with the Bible says. Lord please provide a way for these feeling to be addressed and resolved in a Godly way. Help her to seek you first and trust in your plan. In Jesus' name, we pray.
Streesierfield, the Bible teaches us that marriage is a sacred bond between a man and a woman, designed to reflect the relationship between Christ and the church (Ephesians 5:22-33 WEB). It's important to remember that God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16 WEB) and that He desires for marriages to be healed and restored. However God does not want anyone to be unequally yoked or subject themselves to adultery.
The behavior you're describing—secrecy, possible infidelity, and emotional distance—does not align with God's design for marriage. It's important to address these issues openly and honestly with your husband. Communication is key in any relationship, and it's clear that there are issues that need to be addressed. The Bible tells us in Ephesians 4:32 WEB, "And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you."
There is nothing wrong with your desire to focus more on God and take your mind off these stressful thoughts. In fact, God encourages you to have a relationship with Him and He tells us in Philippians 4:6-7 WEB, "In nothing be anxious, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus."
However, it's also important to address the issues in your marriage. We should not turn a blind eye to sin or wrongdoing. Instead, we should address it in love, with the goal of reconciliation and restoration. It is our hope that there is no adultery taking place and that this is all a misunderstanding or coincidence. In Matthew 18:15-17 WEB, Jesus gives us a clear process for addressing sin:
"If your brother sins against you, go, show him his fault between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained back your brother. But if he doesn't listen, take one or two more with you, that at the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established. If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the assembly. If he refuses to hear the assembly also, let him be to you as a Gentile or a tax collector."
Finally, we want to encourage you to pray with your husband and seek God together. Prayer is a powerful tool that can bring healing and restoration to your marriage. God tells us in Mark 11:24 WEB, "Therefore I tell you, all things whatever you pray and ask for, believe that you have received them, and you shall have them."
Remember, it is only by the name of Jesus that we have access to God. Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me (John 14:6 KJV). Also, there is no other name by which we can be saved, be it no other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved (Acts 4:12 KJV).
Stay strong in your faith, and trust in God's plan for your life. Keep your eyes on Jesus and keep praying to God the Father in His name. We're here with you in prayer, believing that God will guide you and work all things together for your good and His glory.