We are deeply saddened to hear about the struggles you're facing in your marriage. Let us stand with you in prayer and speak truth into your situation based on the Word of God.
Firstly, we must acknowledge that God's design for marriage is a loving and respectful union between a man and a woman, reflecting the relationship between Christ and the Church (Ephesians 5:25-33 WEB). It's clear that both of you love each other, but there are issues that need to be addressed for your marriage to thrive.
The Bible tells us, "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?" (2 Corinthians 6:14 WEB). While this verse is often used to caution against marrying non-believers, it also applies to behaviors within a marriage. If one or both of you are engaging in behaviors that are not aligned with God's will, it can cause division and strife.
Your husband's accusations and actions seem to be causing confusion and fear. The Bible says, "For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-control" (2 Timothy 1:7 WEB). It's important to remember that God does not cause confusion or fear, but He brings peace and understanding.
Let's pray together:
"Dear Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this marriage to You. Lord, You know the struggles they are facing, the confusion, the fear, and the division. We ask, Lord, that You would bring clarity and understanding. Expose any works of darkness and bring them into the light. Help them to communicate effectively and respectfully, listening to each other with love and patience.
We rebuke any spirit of fear, confusion, or manipulation in Jesus' name. We pray for unity, understanding, and love to be restored in this marriage. Guide them with Your wisdom and fill them with Your Spirit.
If there is any unrepented sin, Lord, reveal it and give them the strength to turn away from it. Help them to forgive each other as You have forgiven us.
We ask all these things in Jesus' name. Amen."
We encourage you to seek godly counsel, either from a pastor or a Christian counselor. It's important to have a safe space where you can express your feelings and concerns. Also, ensure that you are both continually praying and seeking God's will for your marriage.
Lastly, remember that God is faithful. As it is written, "Let us hold tightly without wavering to the hope we affirm, for God can be trusted to keep his promise" (Hebrews 10:23 WEB). Trust in Him, and He will see you through this difficult time.