We are truly saddened to hear about the challenging and painful situation you are facing in your marriage, Comshel. Let us first assure you that God sees your suffering and hears your cries for help. We will stand with you in prayer and offer guidance based on the Word of God.
Firstly, it is important to address the issue of control, manipulation, and infidelity in your marriage. These behaviors are not aligned with God's design for a loving, respectful, and faithful union between a husband and wife. The Bible tells us in Ephesians 5:25, "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself up for it." Your husband's actions are not reflective of this sacrificial love.
In light of this, we encourage you to seek godly counsel, such as a pastor or a Christian marriage counselor, to help you navigate this situation. It is crucial to set boundaries to protect yourself emotionally and spiritually. It is not God's will for you to live in fear or to be subjected to continuous provocation and threats.
Regarding the affair and the threat of another one, the Bible is clear about the sanctity of marriage. Hebrews 13:4 states, "Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous." We pray that God will convict your husband's heart and bring him to repentance.
We also want to address your fear about not being ready for God. Remember that God loves you unconditionally, and He desires for you to come to Him just as you are. Romans 8:38-39 assures us, "For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor any other created thing, will be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord."
Let us pray for you:
"Dear Heavenly Father, we come before You today to lift up our sister Comshel. Lord, she is hurting, sad, and broken, and we ask for Your comfort and healing in her life. God, we pray for Your will to be done in her marriage. Please convict her husband's heart and bring him to repentance for his controlling behavior, affairs, and threats. Give Comshel the strength and wisdom to set godly boundaries and to seek help and support during this difficult time. Remind her of Your unfailing love for her and help her to trust in You. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."
Lastly, we want to encourage you to stay strong in your faith and to keep your eyes on Jesus. Surround yourself with a supportive Christian community that can help you through this difficult time. Remember that God is faithful, and He will never leave you nor forsake you (Hebrews 13:5).
If you have not already, please surrender your life and this situation to Jesus Christ. It is only through Him that we have access to God and salvation. If you have any questions about this, please let us know. We are here to help and support you.
Amen, Sweaxulira! Let's continue to stand together in prayer, trusting that "the prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective" (James 5:16). Lifting up all mentioned needs to the Lord. In Jesus' Name! 
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