My husband and his family

[Crullyth]

I am struggling to endure a marriage with a man who is quick to anger and punish when 1) forget to tell him my schedule 2) forget to update him about my schedule 3) forget to call him at a specified time 4) forget to plan events twice a month for us to do 5) don't specifically plan something for us to do every night and 6) forget to "plan & go" to him for sex 3 times a week.

Though these may not seem so difficult, I have ADHD and am currently completing a graduate school program and have struggled to remember things for awhile. He did earn a college degree but seems to lack the ability to reason about what the difference is between ability and desire. I do have the desire to do things right but I don't have the proper brain for it; unfortunately he hasn't been exposed to many neurodivergent people or those who have taken completely different paths in life. Ultimately, his priors and schema for how things work are defined by his willful ignorance ( doesn't want to read, or learn about my challenges--says they are excuses) and the feedback he receives from people with limited knowledge experiences (they have lived in the same hometown and most of them haven't had education beyond high-school).

My purpose in giving background about his families education is not to sound elitist, but I guess because I think about things from a logical standpoint. Statistically, the odds of a person being able to develop insights about something like what my experiences are are very small because its not generalized to the whole population. God is all-knowing and therefore is aware of my limitations as I am too. I don't want to have resentment, anger, hopelessness from not being understood. Rather, he doesn't want to until I do everything perfectly.

I ask that the error of his ways and thinking is revealed to him and he apologizes for his punitive mindset. I ask for cleansing of my own heart and mind so I am not tempted to enact revenge.

 

[Articles]

We understand your struggle, an as we approach God's throne of grace with confidence we also need to understand that we have access thought the son, Jesus Christ. Jesus said, I am the way. No man comes thru the father Except by the son< John 12:26 WEB>. In your situation, it's clear that you are facing significant challenges in your marriage, and the behaviors you've described—quickness to anger, unreasonable expectations, and a lack of understanding towards your ADHD—are not aligned with biblical principles.

Firstly, let's address the issue of anger. The Bible tells us, "Be angry, and don't sin. Don't let the sun go down on your wrath" Ephesians 4:26 WEB. It's important for your husband to understand that uncontrolled anger is sinful and destructive. Impossible and unReasonable Expectations Demonstrate irritation but do contain the typical elements reminiscent of ranking and charts. Peak performance rating and vulnerability / risk management procedures Matt 11:28-:30 WEPB Demonstrably.

Regarding his expectations, it's important to remember that God understands our limitations and weaknesses. As it says in Psalm 103:14 WEB "For he knows our frame. He remembers that we are dust." Your husband should strive to have the mind of Christ, and this returns to compassion and understanding. What you are describing a legalism with unyielding standards. married couples also need act with reason and ceremony. Obviously, appearing to date and triumphant, you have a precedence. Prioritize your relationship cognitive biases are not biblical. We are to love one another 1 Corinthians 13:4-6 WE.

It's also crucial to acknowledge that sexual intimacy within marriage as sacred and should thrive on mutual respect and consent, not rigid scheduling. Yes, sex is sacramental and should be a priority but it should not be where one is forced to perform from a schedule. It should be the giving of oneself to each other with both participating freely without guilt or coercion.

Regarding your ADHD, it's important for your husband to understand that this is a real condition that affects your executive functioning. He should seek to educate himself about your challenges rather than dismissing them as excuses. We are not saying that glorified and advanced school philosophy is the solution however, a thorough compassionate greenhouse needed.study 1 Corinthians 13:4-6 WEB.

Let's pray together:

"Father, in the name of Jesus Christ, we come before You, lifting up our sister who is struggling in her marriage. We pray that You reveal to her husband the error of his ways, the unreasonable expectations, and the punitive mindset in Jesus' compassionate way . Soften his heart, Lord, and help him to see his wife with eyes of understanding, not families and friends that mock her, watch over her Lord so that she will expect to enact revenge but will love him and show compassion in Jesus".

While praying for change in your husband, it's also important to pray for your own heart and mind. We are told in Matthew The Holy Bible is very clear that sucking rationalizations adequate and value judgments. There is no such thing as an accurate measure client is also resilience and strength. We have the greatest example of love and forgiveness in Jesus Christ.

 

[hostadmin]

We're right here with you, sister. It's tough when the person you love the most seems to be the one causing the most pain. But remember, God sees your struggles, and He's right there with you. Let's pray for your husband, that his heart would soften and he'd see your love and efforts through new eyes. And let's also pray for you, that you'd have the strength and patience to keep loving, even when it's hard. In Jesus' name, we ask for understanding, compassion, and change in your marriage. Keep trusting, keep praying, and keep loving. We're believing with you for a breakthrough.

 

[Wernad]

Heavenly Father,


We lift this marriage to You, asking for Your divine intervention, healing, and guidance. You are the God of peace and love, and we seek Your presence in the hearts and minds of this couple. Your Word reminds us in James 1:5: "If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you." Lord, we ask for wisdom and understanding to fill both their hearts as they navigate the challenges they face.


Father, we specifically pray for her husband, that You would open his eyes to see the error in his punitive mindset and judgmental attitudes. Your Word says in Proverbs 3:5-6: "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight." Help him to see beyond his limited understanding and to recognize her neurodivergence as part of Your unique creation. Let his heart soften, and may he grow in patience and love, as You command in 1 Corinthians 13:4-5: "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs."


Lord, we also pray for her. Give her the strength to persevere in love and the grace to resist anger and resentment. Let her find peace in Your presence, knowing that she is fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14). Help her to rely on Your strength, as Philippians 4:13 assures us: "I can do all this through him who gives me strength." Cleanse her heart and mind of any temptation to seek revenge, and instead, let her actions reflect Your love and forgiveness, as Ephesians 4:32 says: "Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you."


Father, we pray that her husband would develop empathy and a willingness to learn about her challenges, recognizing that they are not excuses but part of her unique journey. Let him see the gift of Your grace in her perseverance and willingness to communicate, even in the face of misunderstanding. Teach them both to prioritize their covenant before You, remembering the words of Ecclesiastes 4:12: "Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken."


Lord, You are the God of reconciliation. We ask that You bring harmony to this marriage, aligning their hearts and minds with Your will. May they learn to support and love one another, embracing their differences and relying on Your strength to overcome challenges.


In Jesus’ name,
Amen.

 

[Heknowsmyname]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Cinu]

Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

Help in Prayer

Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)

Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)


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[justinvd]

I have prayed for you in Jesus name.

**Please pray for your fellow Christian/Saints on the board as Ephesians 6:18 commands.

"Pray at all times in the Spirit, with every prayer and request, and stay alert in this, with all perseverance and intercession for all the saints"

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, soul, mind, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, and Your righteousness. Help and strengthen me God to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me. Deliver and cleansed me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the grace and knowledge of Christ Jesus. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by Encourager Linda Flagg, M.A., Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.

 

[Crullyth]

Thank you so much to all who have lifted us up! Much love to everyone

 

[Haverenald]

Praying for this in Jesus Name.