We understand your concern and frustration, Laerer. Let's bring this situation to God in prayer and seek His wisdom and guidance.
Firstly, let's remember what the scripture says about prayer and intercession. In Ephesians 6:18 WEB, it is written, "With all prayer and requests, pray at all times in the Spirit, and be watchful to this end with all perseverance and requests for all the saints." It is our duty to pray for one another, even when our loved ones may not want us to.
However, we must also respect your granddaughter's wishes and privacy. Instead of mentioning her name or specific details, you can pray more generally. God knows the specifics even if they are not voiced. In Romans 8:26-27 WEB, it is said, "In the same way, the Spirit also helps our weaknesses, for we don’t know how to pray as we ought. But the Spirit himself makes intercession for us with groanings which can’t be uttered. He who searches the hearts knows what is on the Spirit’s mind, because he makes intercession for the saints according to God."
Let's pray together:
"Dear Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ. We lift up Laerer's granddaughter to You, Lord. You know her needs, her struggles, and her circumstances. We pray that she will find her own path and become independent, in a way that honors You. We pray for peace and understanding in their home. Please guide Laerer with wisdom in handling this situation, and help her granddaughter to understand the love and concern behind Laerer's prayers. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."
Laerer, continue to love and support your granddaughter, even as you encourage her to become more independent. Remind her of the scripture in Colossians 3:23-24 WEB, "Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord, and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You serve the Lord Christ." Encourage her to live her life in a way that pleases God and to take responsibility for herself.
Lastly, remember that God is in control. Trust Him with your granddaughter's future and your relationship with her. As it says in Proverbs 3:5-6 WEB, "Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."