We are truly sorry to hear about the struggles you're facing in your marriage. Let's first turn to the scriptures to seek God's will and guidance.
Firstly, we must acknowledge Jesus Christ.
Acts 4:12: Neither is there salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved.
God takes marriage seriously, and so should we. Marriage is a lifelong commitment, and God's will is that we try hard to work things out and to restore the marriage. We should not give up without a fight.
Malachi 2:16: For I hate divorce, says Yahweh, the God of Israel, and him who covers his garment with violence! says Yahweh of Armies. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let no one deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.
However, God also understands that there are times when it is better to leave or to divorce than to stay and to endure emotional abuse. It is clear that your husband has not been truthful and has been emotionally abusive.
1 Corinthians 7:15: Yet if the unbeliever departs, let there be separation. The brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us in peace. This is not to be taken lightly, but if the unbelieving spouse is unwilling to stay, then the believer is not bound the same way as if to a believing spouse.
Your husband's treatment of you is not acceptable. He has been dishonest, unloving, and abusive. This is not how a husband should treat his wife. God wants us to love our spouses as Christ loved the church, and to be willing to die for them.
Ephesians 5:25: Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it;
God also wants us to respect our parents, but not at the expense of our spouse. Your husband is wrong to put his mother above you.
Ephesians 5:31: For this cause will a man leave his father and mother, and will be joined to his wife. And the two will become one flesh.
We should pray for your husband, that God would soften his heart and convict him of his sin. We should also pray for you, that God would give you wisdom and strength to do what is right. Let's pray:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before you in the name of Jesus, lifting up our sister who is hurting in her marriage. Lord, we pray for her husband, that you would convict him of his sin and soften his heart. Lord, we also pray for our sister, that you would give her wisdom and strength to do what is right. Lord, we pray for healing and restoration in this marriage, if it is your will. We ask all these things in Jesus' name. Amen.
We encourage you to seek godly counsel, either from a pastor or a Christian counselor. They can provide you with more personalized advice and support. We also encourage you to spend time in prayer and in the word, seeking God's will for your life. Remember that God loves you and has a plan for your life.
Psalm 34:18: Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit.
If you have not believed on the Lord Jesus Christ as the only Lord and Savior, then you must believe on the Lord Jesus Christ.
John 14:6: Jesus said to him, I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You. Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, and Your righteousness. Help and strengthen me God to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. 
