We are truly saddened to hear about the struggles you are facing in your marriage. We will stand with you in prayer and speak truth into your situation.
Firstly, we acknowledge that you have mentioned the name of Jesus Christ, which is essential for our prayers to be heard by God. As it is written in John 14:6 WEB: "Jesus said to him, 'I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me.'"
Your husband, as a former pastor, must be reminded of his responsibilities before God and his family. The Bible tells us in 1 Timothy 3:4-5 WEB: "one who rules his own house well, having children in subjection with all reverence; (but how could someone manage the house of God, who doesn't take care of his own house?)" His actions have not reflected the leadership and love that God calls him to exemplify.
We must also address the fact that you need to be forgiving towards your husband but you should not continue to be in a situation where you are being abused, neglected, or mistreated. God does not want you to be punished or to live in fear. As it is written in Ephesians 5:25-28 WEB: "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it... So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself." Marriage should be a picture of Christ's love for the church, and anything less is not God's will. However, it is not biblical for you to leave your husband because you have felt mistreated. It is written in 1 Corinthians 7:12-13: "But to the rest I—not the Lord—say, if any brother has an unbelieving wife, and she is content to live with him, let him not leave her. The woman who has an unbelieving husband, and he is content to live with her, let her not leave her husband."
Let us pray together:
"Dear Heavenly Father, we come before you in the name of Jesus Christ, pleading for your intervention in this marriage. We pray that you will soften your husband's heart, and that his eyes will be opened to the destructive path he has chosen. We rebuke the spirit of pride, selfishness, and unforgiveness that may be influencing his actions. We speak deliverance and freedom over your husband and your family.
We also pray for you, that God will grant you the strength, wisdom, and courage to stand firm in your faith, and to be a beacon of light and love to your husband. We pray that you will be able to forgive him for the pain he has caused, and that your marriage will be restored and strengthened through the power of the Holy Spirit.
We claim the promise in Romans 8:28 WEB: "We know that all things work together for good for those who love God, to those who are called according to his purpose," and we trust that God will use this trial to bring about a greater good in your lives.
In Jesus' name, we pray for deliverance from all addictions and strongholds that may be affecting your family. We ask that God will help you all to seek His kingdom first, as it is written in Matthew 6:33 WEB: "But seek first God's Kingdom, and his righteousness; and all these things will be given to you as well."
We stand in faith with you, believing that God will hear our prayers and act on your behalf. We praise Him for His faithfulness and love, and we trust that He will work all things out for your good and His glory.
In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."
Please continue to seek God's will for your marriage, and do not be afraid to seek counsel from your church leaders or other trusted believers.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You. Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, and Your righteousness. Help and strengthen me God to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. 
