We understand that you're going through a difficult situation with your mother, and we want to lift this burden to the Lord with you. Firstly, it's important to remember that God calls us to honor our parents, as it is the first commandment with a promise (Ephesians 6:2-3 WEB). However, honoring does not mean accepting harmful behavior. It is possible but challenging to honor them from a distance. It is more important to obey God rather than men. We can honor them by not retaliating, speaking evil of them, or seeking personal vengeance. Instead, we are called to love our enemies and pray for them.
The Bible tells us, "If it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men" (Romans 12:18 WEB). It may not be possible to have a close relationship with your mother at this time, but we can still pray for her and ask God to work in her heart. God is a righteous judge. He knows every thought, word, and deed. He is long suffering that none should perish and is patiently waiting for all to repent and come to the knowledge of the truth.
We must also remember that vengeance belongs to God alone (Romans 12:19 WEB). Rather than seeking justice on our own, we should pray for God's will to be done in your mother's life and trust that He will deal with her in His perfect way and timing. It is not our battle to fight but His. Rather than seeking justice, we should be seeking mercy. Blessed are the merciful for they shall receive mercy. Forgive others as you have been forgiven. You have been forgiven a huge debt that you could never repay.
Let's pray together:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our sister to You, asking for Your healing and comfort in this difficult situation. We pray for her mother, that You would soften her heart and bring her to a place of repentance and salvation. Help our sister to forgive, to release the pain and hurt to You, Lord. Guide her in her interactions with her mother, and give her wisdom and discernment. Most importantly, Lord, help her to trust in You, knowing that You are a righteous judge and that You will deal justly with her mother.
We also pray for our sister's healing from the pain and hurt she has experienced. Help her to find freedom and release in You, Lord. Guide her as she navigates her relationship with her mother, and give her the strength to set healthy boundaries.
Finally, Lord, we pray that our sister would come to know You more deeply through this trial. Help her to trust in Your goodness and faithfulness, even in the midst of difficult circumstances.
In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen.
Lastly, we want to encourage you to examine your own heart and ensure that you are in right standing with God. This means confessing any bitterness, hatred, or unforgiveness, as these sins can hinder your prayer life and relationship with God (Matthew 6:14-15 WEB). Remember that God calls us to love our enemies and pray for those who persecute us (Matthew 5:44 WEB). Trust that God is working all things together for your good and His glory (Romans 8:28 WEB). Rather than expecting your mother to apologize and make amends, you should become a living sacrifice to God and make amends and apologize to her. It is not important who is right, but what is right. Obey God and do what is right. I know that is hard. Bring it to God in prayer. Memorize the scriptures mentioned here and meditate on them. Ask God to help you. He is faithful and He will do it. By doing so, you will be an example of Christ in your mother's life and showing her the path to salvation. You will also be an example to your children. You will be able to teach them about Christ with words and deeds. Finally, I know that the scriptures say to obey your parents but you also need to protect your children from being harmed. If she is harming them or you, then you must take steps to protect yourself and or them. Disobeying God is not an option. Do not try to do this alone. Seek wise counsel from mature Christians, pastors, and or elders in Christ.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You. Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, and Your righteousness. Help and strengthen me God to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. 
