Mother-daughter relationship

Anonymous · Sep 12, 2024

I set some boundaries yesterday with my mom, telling her I didn't want people visiting me in the hospital of the first 1-3 months of post partum because I wanted to focus on my recovery and my baby, not visitors. Also because it can be dangerous for the baby's health during those months. I also mentioned I didn't want her to talk about me or my baby to people since she overshares too much information about us with people who have brought harm through gossip... I asked to please not do that. She didn't like my boundaries and reacted like if what I was asking for was to ruin her social reputation with these people...and like I had to welcome them in my life during my recovery period, etc... she twisted things, victimized herself...didn't care to understand...she is now acting like I did something wrong...she is ignoring me, locking herself up in her room, looks at me like if I did something wrong for setting those boundaries etc.... and idk who she is messaging and what her version of things are ....she also seemed ot have been lying to me and people (triangulation manipulation)... I feel hurt, broken and guilt tripped even thou I know I didn't do anything wrong.... please help.

Articles · Sep 12, 2024

Dear one, we understand the pain and confusion you're feeling, but we want to encourage and pray for you, knowing that God's wisdom guides you. Setting boundaries is not only healthy but also biblical. Proverbs 4:23 (WEB) says, "Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life."

Firstly, let's address the core issue. Your mother seems to have reacted negatively because she may not understand or respect the boundaries you've set. However, your boundaries are for your well-being and your baby's, and they are reasonable. It's crucial to protect your physical and emotional space, especially during such a sensitive time.

Let's pray together:

"Father, in the name of Jesus Christ, we come before You lifting up our dear sister who is hurting. Lord, You know the intentions of her heart, and You see the boundaries she has set are for her good and the good of her baby. We ask You to soften her mother's heart, to help her understand and respect these boundaries. Lord, we pray that You will give our sister the strength to stand firm in her decisions, knowing they are right and godly. Remove any guilt she feels, and replace it with Your peace and assurance. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."

Remember, the Bible tells us to honor our parents, but it also tells us to set boundaries and protect our well-being. Ephesians 6:2 (WEB) says, "Honor your father and mother," but also, Proverbs 22:3 (WEB) says, "A prudent man sees danger and takes refuge; but the simple pass on, and suffer for it."

It's important to communicate your feelings calmly and clearly with your mother, explaining why these boundaries are essential. If she continues to ignore or disrespect them, you may need to seek support from other family members, friends, or a professional counselor.

Lastly, we want to remind you that God loves you and cares about every detail of your life. He wants you to trust Him with all your concerns. Psalm 55:22 (WEB) says, "Cast your burden on Yahweh, and he will sustain you. He will never allow the righteous to be moved."

Stay strong in your faith, and keep your focus on Jesus. If you haven't already, ensure that you have a personal relationship with Him, as it is only through His name that we can be saved and have access to God's presence and power.

hostadmin · Sep 12, 2024

We're really sorry to hear about the situation with your mom. It's tough when our loved ones don't understand or respect the boundaries we need. We want you to know that we're here for you, praying for you. We understand that it's a challenging time for you, especially with a new baby on the way. Let's pray together:

"Dear Lord, in Jesus' name, we lift up our sister to You. Lord, You see her heart and the love she has for her mom and her baby. We ask that You give her the strength to stand firm in her decisions, knowing they are for the best. Help her mom to understand and respect these boundaries, Lord. We pray for peace and understanding between them. We also ask that You remove any guilt our sister feels and replace it with Your peace and assurance. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."

Remember, it's okay to set boundaries, even with our parents. It's about protecting your well-being and your baby's. We're here for you, and we'll keep praying for you both. Keep trusting in Jesus, and remember that He loves you and is always with you.

EnricoLange · Sep 12, 2024

Lord Jesus please help them in accordance with your perfect will Father. Thank you.

The Encourager · Sep 13, 2024

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Let Us Pray: God Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus' name to please bless me with everything I stand in need of, and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, soul, mind, strength, and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to prosper, have excellent health, and have an ever growing closer stronger more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always honor, respect, and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, lean not to my own understanding, acknowledge You in all my ways, and allow You to direct my footsteps, actions, and words.

God heal me, body, soul, and spirit. Cleansed me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, pray Your best for me, and all those I love and care about. God please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith. Prayer written by Encourager Linda Flagg, M.A., Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.

hostadmin · Sep 18, 2024

Thank you for giving us the privilege to pray on your behalf. We are glad that that you asked us to stand in agreement with you in prayer. If your request was answered, please post a praise report and let us all know. If your request does not seem to have been answered, please post it again as a new request and allow us to continue with you in prayer. We all hope that our prayers are answered in the way that we want. Sometimes we believe that God is not answering our prayers because we do not see what we expect. In these cases, we should persist in prayer and determine how God is answering our prayer. May God bless you as you continue to seek him through his son, Jesus Christ.