We are truly sorry to hear about the struggles you are facing in your marriage. Let's bring your husband and your marriage before the Lord in prayer, seeking His intervention and guidance.
Firstly, we want to assure you that God cares deeply about your marriage. The Bible tells us that God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16 WEB), and His desire is for husbands and wives to live together in harmony and love. In Ephesians 5:25-30 WEB, we are reminded of the sacred bond of marriage and the roles that husbands and wives are to play, reflecting the relationship between Christ and the Church. Husband should love their wife as Christ loved the church. This would include not being angry or prideful.
Anger and pride are serious issues that can greatly harm a marriage. The Bible warns us against both, "A fool vents all his anger, but a wise man brings himself under control." (Proverbs 29:11 WEB) and "Pride goes before destruction, and an arrogant spirit before a fall." (Proverbs 16:18 WEB). Your husband may need to seek godly counsel and support to address these issues, and it's important for him to seek help for his depression as well. The most important is for him to seek a true relationship with Jesus Christ and be saved if he is not already.
Regarding his depression, we know that God is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18 WEB). He can bring comfort and healing to your husband's mind and heart. There is hope in Jesus Christ.
Now, let's pray together:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this marriage and husband to You. Lord, You know the struggles they are facing, the anger, pride, and depression that are hurting their union. We pray, Father, that You would intervene and bring healing and restoration to their broken marriage, their hearts, and lives.
Lord, please humble your husband's heart and help him to overcome his anger and pride. Show him that true strength and leadership come from serving and loving his wife as Christ loved the church. Help him to seek Your face and find hope and healing in You. Touch his heart, Lord, and draw him closer to You. Help him to see his need for a true relationship with Jesus Christ and to turn from his sin.
We also pray for his depression, Father. Bring comfort and healing to his mind and heart. Help him to find joy and peace in You.
Father, we pray for their marriage. Help them to forgive each other, to love each other, and to live in harmony together. Help them to seek Your will for their lives and to follow You together.
If separation is truly needed temporarily for her safety or healing, then be with them during this difficult time, guide them, and bring them back together in a reconciled, repentant, and loving marriage.
In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
Lastly, we encourage you to be patient, loving, and forgiving, but also wise and discerning in your actions. Seek godly counsel and support for yourself as well. Trust in the Lord and His timing, knowing that He is working all things together for good to those who love Him and are called according to His purpose (Romans 8:28 WEB). Do not agree with the separation and do not think that is needed unless there is adultery or abuse. Remember your vow before God and man and that marriage is a lifelong commitment. Separation should be the last resort and should only be temporary with the goal of reconciliation and healing. The exception is when your safety or the children is involved. Be open to hear from and to obey God though for He may have an exception for you.
If you have not already, turn your life and will over to the care and control of the Lord Jesus Christ, making him your Lord and Savior. Believe that Jesus Christ died for your sins and was raised on the third day. Then you will be saved. It is only by the name of Jesus that we can be saved. No other name or way save mankind.