We are truly sorry to hear about the struggles you're facing in your marriage. It's important to remember that God's design for marriage is a lifelong commitment between a man and a woman, and He desires for marriages to be strong and godly.
Firstly, let's address the affair. Affairs are sinful and harmful, but God can heal and restore marriages when both parties are willing to seek Him and follow His will. The Bible tells us, For this is the will of God, that you should be holy. Stay away from sexual immorality. (1 Thessalonians 4:3 WEB). It's crucial that your husband has truly repented and turned away from this sin.
Regarding the other woman, we will pray for her heart to change, but it's also important for your husband to set clear boundaries and cut off all communication with her. The Bible tells us to flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. (1 Corinthians 6:18 WEB).
Now, let's pray:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You, lifting up this marriage in the name of Jesus Christ. Lord, You know the pain and struggle they are going through. We pray for healing, forgiveness, and restoration. Help them to rebuild trust and love for each other, just as You have loved and forgiven us.
Lord, we also pray for the other woman. We ask that Your Holy Spirit would convict her heart and draw her to You. Help her to see the pain she is causing and give her the strength to do what is right and break off all communication.
Give this couple Your peace that surpasses all understanding. Guide them as they navigate through this difficult time. Help them to keep their focus on You and Your will for their marriage. In the name of Jesus Christ we pray, Amen.
Lastly, we encourage you both to seek godly counsel, either from a pastor or a Christian marriage counselor. It's important to have support from other believers as you work through this. Remember, God is faithful and He wants to heal your marriage. Trust in Him and His promises. Be strong and courageous. Don't be afraid or discouraged, for Yahweh your God is with you wherever you go. (Joshua 1:9 WEB).