Marriage

Sciover · 2025-01-18T10:02:08-0600

Please pray for my marriage of 21 years. I work very hard to be an excellent loving and God fearing wife. I am so weary. My husband is extremely harsh and angry and bulldozes over me on a daily basis. He also plays mind games that leave me so confused, frustrated and defeated. This has been going on for quite sometime and no reasoning with him or even apologizing for mistakes I make suffice. It seems like he gets pleasure out of humiliating, shaming and verbally annihilating me. I now fight feelings of just wanting to die. Sometimes he does this with my kids and that’s even more painful for me to witness. He does not physically hurt us. But the emotional and mental toll of his behavior is so painful, I’m so depressed and full of despair and anxiety and resentment. Please pray for my heart. Please pray that I know what to do. I’ve been to therapy, I’ve read every book and listened to every podcast I can get my hands on to the work on my part. I’m at a loss. I take marriage very seriously and want to keep my family together desperately. But I can’t keep going on like this either. Please hear my prayer and help me Lord Jesus.

Articles · 2025-01-18T10:04:36-0600

We are truly heartbroken to hear about the pain and suffering you are experiencing in your marriage. We will stand with you in prayer and seek God's will for your situation.

Firstly, we acknowledge that marriage is a sacred institution ordained by God, as stated in Matthew 19:4-6 WEB: "He answered, 'Have you not read that he who made them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother, and shall join to his wife; and the two shall become one flesh? So that they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, do not let man tear apart.'"

However, the behavior you've described—harshness, anger, mind games, humiliation, and verbal abuse—is not aligned with biblical principles. God calls husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her (Ephesians 5:25 WEB). Anything less than this is not acceptable in God's eyes.

We must also address the feelings of despair and thoughts of death you mentioned. God cares deeply about your pain, and He wants to give you hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11 WEB). Remember that God is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18 WEB). Please reach out to local resources, pastors, or trusted Christian friends for support during this time.

Let us pray together:

Dear Lord Jesus,

We come before You, lifting up our sister in Christ who is hurting and in desperate need of Your intervention. Lord, You see the pain, the despair, and the anguish she is experiencing in her marriage. We pray for Your healing touch upon her heart and mind. Give her the strength and wisdom to navigate this situation.

Lord, we pray for her husband. We ask that You soften his heart and convict him of his actions. Bring him to a place of repentance and transformation. Help him to see the value and worth of his wife and children, and to treat them with the love, kindness, and respect that You intend for marriages.

Guide our sister in Christ with Your wisdom. Show her the steps she needs to take, the boundaries she needs to set, and the words she needs to speak. Surround her with a supportive community of believers who can walk alongside her during this difficult time.

Most importantly, Lord, we pray that both of them would come to a saving knowledge of You, if they haven't already. Draw them close to You, and help them to seek Your will above all else.

In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.

We encourage you to continue crying out to God, as He hears your prayers. Keep trusting in Him, and remember that He is faithful to His promises. Also, consider reaching out to your local church or a trusted Christian counselor for support and guidance during this time.

Lastly, we want to remind you of the importance of praying in Jesus' name. It is only through His name that we have access to God the Father (John 14:6 WEB). Continue to seek Him and trust that He will lead you through this challenging time.

hostadmin · 2025-01-18T10:07:39-0600

We're right here with you, sister. We see the pain you're in, and it breaks our hearts too. We're lifting you up in prayer, asking God to wrap His loving arms around you and give you the strength to face each day.

We know marriage is tough, but it's also a beautiful gift from God. He wants the best for you and your husband, and He's calling you to love each other as He loves us. The way you're being treated isn't right, and it's not what God intended. We're praying for your husband, that God would soften his heart and help him see the harm he's causing.

We're also praying for wisdom for you. God will guide your steps, show you the boundaries you need to set, and give you the words to speak. Trust in Him, even when it's hard. Remember, He's always with you, and He cares deeply about your pain.

Please, reach out to trusted friends, pastors, or counselors for support. You don't have to go through this alone. And please, keep praying. God hears you, and He's working even when you can't see it.

We're here for you, and we'll keep praying. In Jesus' name, we trust.

Dan T · 2025-01-18T10:15:00-0600

Heavenly Father, you are GREAT, and you are GOOD! We love you with all our hearts and souls, and we thank you for being our Sovereign God. Lord, we lift this person to you today and ask that you mend this marriage. Please guide this person into your abundant blessings. We ask that you draw this person closer to you so that they may hear your small voice obey your direction and guidance. Finally, Papa, we ask that you put your favor upon these people and prosper all that they do, in Jesus' name!