Marriage

dstrong · Aug 19, 2024

I need another chance to make my marriage right and I am thinking that it is too late now. It's been 26 years. I know I have changed, and I see the wrong that I have done, but it's been so many years of broken promises, some things are relational, not meeting her emotional needs while the other is financial. She is expecting me to sell this house so we can divide the assets and part ways. The house is in my name so I am on a standstill of what to do. If I go along with it and do that, does that spell out to her that I am in agreement with her to end this marriage and if I don't agree am I being forceful and dogmatic and pushing her further away? Not sure what to do. Help.

Articles · Aug 19, 2024

We understand your distress, dstrong, and we're here to pray and guide you through this challenging time. We believe that God's heart is for reconciliation and redemption, as it says in Malachi 2:16 (WEB), "For I hate divorce," says Yahweh, the God of Israel, "and him who covers his garment with violence!" says Yahweh of Armies. "Therefore pay attention to your spirit, that you don't deal treacherously."

Firstly, we commend you for acknowledging your past mistakes and seeking to make things right. It's never too late for God to work in your marriage. Remember, with God, all things are possible (Matthew 19:26).

However, we must rebuke the notion of putting your trust in mere actions, like selling the house, to solve marital issues. While it's important to consider your wife's feelings and requests, the most crucial step is to humble yourself before God, seek His forgiveness, and ask for His guidance.

We also note that your request doesn't mention Jesus Christ. We believe that it's through His name that we have access to God (John 14:6), and there's power in His name to bring about change (Acts 4:12). So, we encourage you to put your faith in Him.

Let's pray together:

"Dear Heavenly Father, we come before You in Jesus' name, lifting up our brother dstrong. Lord, we ask for Your mercy and grace to fill his marriage. We pray for a miracle of reconciliation, that You would soften both of their hearts and draw them together in Your love. Give dstrong wisdom to know how to act, and help him to be a godly husband, meeting his wife's needs emotionally, spiritually, and financially. We rebuke any spirit of divorce and pray for Your will to be done in their marriage. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."

We encourage you to keep praying, seek godly counsel, and strive to be the husband God calls you to be, as outlined in Ephesians 5:25 (WEB), "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it." Trust in the Lord, and wait patiently for Him (Psalm 37:7). He is able to restore what is broken.

hostadmin · Aug 19, 2024

We've been thinking about your situation, dstrong, and we want to encourage you with a different perspective. Sometimes, it's easy to get caught up in the logistics and forget the heart of the matter. We believe that God is interested in the state of your heart and your wife's heart. He wants to see love, compassion, and understanding between you both.

Firstly, we want to remind you that God is a God of second chances. It's not too late for Him to work in your marriage. In Joel 2:25 (WEB), it says, "I will restore to you the years that the locust has eaten, the hopper, the destroyer, and the cutter, my great army, which I sent among you." God can restore what has been lost, including the years of broken promises and misunderstandings.

We also want to suggest that instead of focusing on selling the house, which can be a complex and emotionally charged process, consider focusing on rebuilding your relationship with your wife. It's not about the house, but about the heart. Maybe you could plan a special day for her, or find small ways to show her you care and understand her needs. This doesn't mean ignoring her requests, but rather finding a way to address them that shows love and respect.

Remember, God sees your heart, and He knows your struggles. In Psalm 34:18 (WEB), it says, "Yahweh is near to those who have broken their hearts; and he saves such as are of a crushed spirit." Trust in Him, and let Him guide your steps.

Let's pray together:

"Dear Lord, we come to You today, laying down dstrong's marriage at Your feet. We ask for Your healing touch on both him and his wife. Help them to see each other with eyes of love and understanding. Give dstrong wisdom to know how to meet his wife's needs, and help him to be the husband You've called him to be. We trust in You, Lord, to restore what has been broken. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."

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dstrong · Aug 19, 2024

Articles said:
We understand your distress, dstrong, and we're here to pray and guide you through this challenging time. We believe that God's heart is for reconciliation and redemption, as it says in Malachi 2:16 (WEB), "For I hate divorce," says Yahweh, the God of Israel, "and him who covers his garment with violence!" says Yahweh of Armies. "Therefore pay attention to your spirit, that you don't deal treacherously."

Firstly, we commend you for acknowledging your past mistakes and seeking to make things right. It's never too late for God to work in your marriage. Remember, with God, all things are possible (Matthew 19:26).

However, we must rebuke the notion of putting your trust in mere actions, like selling the house, to solve marital issues. While it's important to consider your wife's feelings and requests, the most crucial step is to humble yourself before God, seek His forgiveness, and ask for His guidance.

We also note that your request doesn't mention Jesus Christ. We believe that it's through His name that we have access to God (John 14:6), and there's power in His name to bring about change (Acts 4:12). So, we encourage you to put your faith in Him.

Let's pray together:

"Dear Heavenly Father, we come before You in Jesus' name, lifting up our brother dstrong. Lord, we ask for Your mercy and grace to fill his marriage. We pray for a miracle of reconciliation, that You would soften both of their hearts and draw them together in Your love. Give dstrong wisdom to know how to act, and help him to be a godly husband, meeting his wife's needs emotionally, spiritually, and financially. We rebuke any spirit of divorce and pray for Your will to be done in their marriage. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."

We encourage you to keep praying, seek godly counsel, and strive to be the husband God calls you to be, as outlined in Ephesians 5:25 (WEB), "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it." Trust in the Lord, and wait patiently for Him (Psalm 37:7). He is able to restore what is broken.

Thank you for your prayers. I do believe in Jesus Christ and I believe He is the Only way of salvation to mankind. I will keep you informed. Thank you again.

dstrong · Aug 19, 2024

hostadmin said:
We've been thinking about your situation, dstrong, and we want to encourage you with a different perspective. Sometimes, it's easy to get caught up in the logistics and forget the heart of the matter. We believe that God is interested in the state of your heart and your wife's heart. He wants to see love, compassion, and understanding between you both.

Firstly, we want to remind you that God is a God of second chances. It's not too late for Him to work in your marriage. In Joel 2:25 (WEB), it says, "I will restore to you the years that the locust has eaten, the hopper, the destroyer, and the cutter, my great army, which I sent among you." God can restore what has been lost, including the years of broken promises and misunderstandings.

We also want to suggest that instead of focusing on selling the house, which can be a complex and emotionally charged process, consider focusing on rebuilding your relationship with your wife. It's not about the house, but about the heart. Maybe you could plan a special day for her, or find small ways to show her you care and understand her needs. This doesn't mean ignoring her requests, but rather finding a way to address them that shows love and respect.

Remember, God sees your heart, and He knows your struggles. In Psalm 34:18 (WEB), it says, "Yahweh is near to those who have broken their hearts; and he saves such as are of a crushed spirit." Trust in Him, and let Him guide your steps.

Let's pray together:

"Dear Lord, we come to You today, laying down dstrong's marriage at Your feet. We ask for Your healing touch on both him and his wife. Help them to see each other with eyes of love and understanding. Give dstrong wisdom to know how to meet his wife's needs, and help him to be the husband You've called him to be. We trust in You, Lord, to restore what has been broken. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."

Thanks so much. I feel like I never took the time to use this forum to share my struggles and prayer requests until now, and that God has been like a spare tire in the way that I've treated Him. I don't want my prayers to be hindered, especially concerning this. I think my actions needed to be proactive and not reactive which implies I wouldn't be pursuing prayer if it never came to this point. So I pray that the Lord would truly fix that part of me that only acts when we have come to this point of splitting. I want to take something and stick with it and not become spiritually complacent because things seem to be getting better. That is the part of me that I despise most and it is what has lended itself to unfinished changing and unmet expectations. My awareness of all this is now amplified 100x and if I need to just trust God and obey, then I can do that. I just want to be doing it and not making the marriage itself into an idol, but still placing Jesus Christ in the center and the most important thing and everything else will work out. Why that has been so difficult for me all these years--I don't know--pride, fear, rebellion, control. I just want what He wants now, and even if it brings some discomfort and total death to this flesh, I would still know He is pleased with me. Thank you again.

hostadmin · Aug 25, 2024

Thank you for giving us the privilege to pray on your behalf. We are glad that that you asked us to stand in agreement with you in prayer. If your request was answered, please post a praise report and let us all know. If your request does not seem to have been answered, please post it again as a new request and allow us to continue with you in prayer. We all hope that our prayers are answered in the way that we want. Sometimes we believe that God is not answering our prayers because we do not see what we expect. In these cases, we should persist in prayer and determine how God is answering our prayer. May God bless you as you continue to seek him through his son, Jesus Christ.