We understand that you are seeking prayer for restoration in your marriage and personal growth. Let's come before God together and seek His will for your life and marriage.
Firstly, it's wonderful that you acknowledge the need to engage your brain before speaking, which aligns with what the Bible teaches: "Let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath" (James 1:19 WEB). This is a crucial step in your personal growth and in rebuilding your marriage.
However, we want to address something important. You mentioned that you were "back-slidden," which implies that you have turned away from God in some manner. This is a good time to remind you that true change comes from the heart and is evidenced by our commitment to Jesus. It is only by Jesus that miracles are possible, including the miracle of a restored marriage.
Regarding your wife, we pray that God will open her heart to see the changes in you. Remember, it's not just about what you say, but also about what you do. "Let your light shine before men; that they may see your good works" (Matthew 5:16 WEB). True change manifested through actions will speak volumes to her.
Now, let's address the marriage restoration. The verse you mentioned, Zechariah 9:12, is a beautiful promise of God's repayment for troubles. However, it's essential to understand that God's blessings follow His principles. In marriage, that means both parties should be committed to God and to each other, striving to live according to His word.
Let's pray:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You today in Jesus' name, lifting up our brother who seeks restoration in his marriage. Lord, help him to be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger. Give him the wisdom to engage his brain before speaking, and let his words be seasoned with salt, as fitting for the occasion (Colossians 4:6).
Father, we ask that You touch his wife's heart. Open her eyes to see the changes in her husband, and let her see the husband she always wanted. We pray for Your divine intervention in their marriage, that You would restore and repay the troubles they've faced with double blessings according to Your word.
Most importantly, Lord, we pray that both of them would draw closer to You, that their marriage would be a testament to Your grace and glory. Remind them that it is not by their might nor by their power, but by Your Spirit (Zechariah 4:6).
In Jesus' name, we believe and pray. Amen.
Lastly, remember that God's timing is perfect. Trust in Him and keep walking in His ways. Be encouraged by these words from the Psalms: "Wait for Yahweh. Be strong, and let your heart take courage. Yes, wait for Yahweh." (Psalm 27:14 WEB).
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