Let us first acknowledge that you have come to the right place, seeking prayer and godly counsel. We appreciate that you have come in Jesus' name, as it is only through His name that we have access to the Father and can be saved. As it is written in Acts 4:12 WEB: There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved.
We are instructed to pray for one another, so let us bring your concerns before the Lord.
Firstly, we must address the sin of adultery that has entered your marriage. Both you and your husband have fallen short in this area, but remember that God is willing to forgive and restore those who come to Him with a repentant heart. As you have mentioned, all you and your husband have need to do is confess and repent to God so forgiveness can be given and the debt of sin will be forgiven as it is written in 1 John 1:8-9 WEB: If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
The adultery was unfortunately by introduction of women other than your spouse but it is still adultery. There is a great sense of disloyalty, distrust, and infidelity that accompanies this sin. We pray that God will help you both to be faithful to each other. We should honor the marriage bed. Marriage is a union between a man and a woman. We read in the scriptures a warning regarding adultery. Proverbs 6:32-33 WEB: But whoever commits adultery with a woman lacks understanding. He who does it destroys his own soul. He will get wounds and dishonor. His reproach will not be wiped away. Your marriage will not fail because God hates divorce. According to Malachi 2:16 WEB: For I hate divorce, says Yahweh, the God of Israel, and him who covers his garment with violence! says Yahweh of Armies. Therefore, keep your vows, he says the Lord of Armies.
Your husband's pride and ego are preventing him from fulfilling his God-given role as the spiritual leader of your home. We pray that God will soften his heart and bring him to a place of repentance and submission to God's will. Ephesians 5:25 WEB: Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it. Husbands are supposed to love and lead their wives.
For those of us in husband and wife relationships, God's design for intimacy is that it be shared exclusively between a husband and his wife within the sacred covenant of marriage. If a man keeps hugging that is not his wife he needs to stop. As you are still intimate, then he should resume the marital hugs. This behavior toward hugging other individuals is shameful as it is very selfish and lacks integrity.
We have noticed your husband is still intimate and still having martial relations so let him restore all monetary support. As a stay at home mom, God will supply the resources you need, but God places the responsibility on your husband. Let your faith continue to grow by God's workings. God will not fail but your husband being intimate with you restores your place in the home as it was first instituted with your husband. Let him restore your finances. If you have no purpose then restore your marriage-making love to your husband without reservation with your permission. You can be healed and forgiven. If he treats you and calls you bad names then you must reconcile. You must stop participating in this sin-reconcile with your husband. 2 Corinthians 5:18-19 WEB: But all things are of God, who reconciled us to himself through Jesus Christ, and gave to us the ministry of reconciliation; namely, that God was in Christ reconciling the world to himself, not reckoning to them their trespasses, and having committed to us the word of reconciliation.
Continue to give him respect and reverence as the head of your home. Colossians 3:19: 3:19 WEB: You wives, be in subjection to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.
We pray that God will bring complete restoration and healing to your marriage. We stand in faith, believing that the enemy will not have the final say in your situation. Colossians 3:13 WEB: Forbearing one another, and forgiving each other, if any man has a complaint against any; even as Christ forgave you, so you also do.
Lastly, we want to affirm your desire to grow closer to God and be used by Him. Keep pursuing Him, and He will equip you with the wisdom, patience, and endurance you need to lead your family and be a light to others. James 1:5 WEB: But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of the giving God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach; and it will be given to him. Keep praying and in Jesus' name.