Marital help/prayers

[Faenmarenn]

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Hello, there was a past history of unfaithfulness between my wife and I several years ago (she started cheating and I wrongly did the same for revenge which I now wish I had just forgiven and forgot). I recently started a new job and was sent out of state for work which was supposed to be part of the reason I applied for the job. The company hooked me up with a nice luxurious apartment and so I asked my wife to come with the kids and visit since we wouldn’t likely be able to afford anything like that anytime soon. The kids just started school, so they couldn’t go and my wife was busy with her business.

She was able to get help covering her business and watching the kids and booked a flight to come visit for today. Last night there was some kind of junk email that popped into my email saying they were sorry to see me go (it was a 3rd party text app) and I panicked and deleted it right away. She apparently saw it because her phone has my account so she can upload company photos to Google and her company Google account can’t load their own customer photos. She took a screenshot of it and sent it to me asking if that was part of what I meant by cleaning things up before she got here.. I was sweeping and doing laundry and dishes etc so she wouldn’t come to a mess and likely feel obligated to take care of those things.

Anyway I told her I didn’t know anything about it which was my mistake I should have just admit it was junk mail and I didn’t know anything about it but panicked and deleted it.. but she must have knew I was lying about it because she sent this: “Don't expect me tomorrow. I am not coming anymore.”

I tried to reason with her but she wouldn’t reply to my messages. I tried to explain that I’ve only been working as much as I can to get us much needed money and shopping for groceries and nothing else besides a walk at the mall one day and a trip to the beach.. I had installed a doorbell camera which shows up on our family account so she would be able to see me coming and going (that wasn’t the original intent but it’s there)

She either deactivated her Facebook or blocked me because I can’t see her profile anymore which has all the posts of the family on it including the kids. This morning, I received an email that she had deactivated her phone from the find my iPhone system and so I’m panicking that since she seems so sure that I’m unfaithful again, she might be trying to “get back at me” for the pain she’s in.

I’ve never been one to blame hormones or a woman’s cycle.. just doesn’t seem right to not give actual weight to her irritation.. but she said a few days ago that she had just started her menstruation, so it’s possible that’s what is feeding the fire more than anything else.

Please pray for her to have any negative thoughts/energy leave her body and for her to be at peace and at least be willing to join me since her tickets are paid for already and we can talk it over in person. I don’t like using text or phone calls to discuss difficult things as things can too easily get misinterpreted.

And thanks for your thoughts and prayers and reading my long winded heartache.
May peace be with you all.

 

[Articles]

We understand your distress, Faenmarenn, and we're here to support you in prayer and biblical guidance. Let's address your situation with God's word and intercede for your marriage.

Firstly, it's crucial to remember that God calls us to honesty and transparency with one another, especially in a marriage. As it's written in Ephesians 4:25 WEB, "Therefore, putting away falsehood, speak truth each one with his neighbor. For we are members of one another." It was wise of you to realize that you should have been honest about the junk email.

In times of suspicion or doubt, it's important to reassure your spouse with love and patience, as 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 WEB tells us, "Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."

Now, let us pray together:

Dear Heavenly Father,

We come before You today to lift up Faenmarenn and his wife. Lord, we ask for Your divine intervention in their marriage. Please remove any negativity, suspicion, or fear that his wife may be harboring, and replace it with peace, understanding, and a willingness to communicate openly.

Lord Jesus, we ask that You help Faenmarenn to be patient, honest, and loving towards his wife, as You have called husbands to love their wives just as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25 WEB). Help them to have a productive conversation when they see each other, that they may grow stronger in their marriage and in their faith in You.

Holy Spirit, we ask that You comfort their hearts and guide their thoughts, words, and actions. Remind them both of the power of forgiveness, as it is written in Ephesians 4:32 WEB, "And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you."

In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.

Lastly, Faenmarenn, we encourage you to keep pursuing your wife with love, patience, and understanding. Make sure to keep the lines of communication open and be ready to listen to her feelings. Remember, God is the ultimate healer and restorer of marriages, and with Him, all things are possible (Matthew 19:26 WEB). Stay strong in faith and keep trusting in the Lord.

 

[hostadmin]

We're here for you, standing in faith with you. Let's keep praying for your wife's heart to soften and for her to come visit as planned. We believe in the power of prayer and trust that God will work in her heart. Keep the lines of communication open, and let's continue to lift your marriage up to the Lord.

 

[Oozeward]

Praying for this in Jesus Name.

 

[Faenmarenn]

Thanks for the help, I hope I can really change and not be deceptive and be completely honest with my wife and we can heal and move forward. I’ll be honest and maybe it’s his calling to bring me closer, but I never really believed and heard the text about how you can’t really believe if you require proof but the logical part of me can’t accept that he may or may not be real and wants the proof. I don’t want to come to the church and faith through proof, I wish I could have the divine spirit jump into me so to speak like I hear people all of a sudden are great believers because they felt the presence enter them. I need that kind of joy but I’m not worthy to request or require proof. I’m nothing and not deserving of this once I can’t grasp this without proof. Thanks again to everyone for their help and support and prayers, it is very comforting.

 

[usha rani]

Praying for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Gregory McNeill]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name.

 

[Faenmarenn]

Oh my gosh I’m in such a panic right now.. I don’t remember if my wife was supposed to go to catch the shuttle to the airport at 11:20 or 11:40 but there hasn’t been any movement to the van per the garage camera and I’m absolutely freaking out that she may actually be serious about her comment that she’s no longer coming. I really hope I’m wrong, please help ease my heart and heal my wife’s suspicious heart and mind.. cast out all the evil thoughts and welcome in warm caring and loving feelings.. let her remember the joy she had about wanting to join me just earlier yesterday!

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Let Us Pray: God Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus' name to please bless me with everything I stand in need of, and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, soul, mind, strength, and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to prosper, have excellent health, and have an ever growing closer stronger more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always honor, respect, and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, lean not to my own understanding, acknowledge You in all my ways, and allow You to direct my footsteps, actions, and words.

God heal me, body, soul, and spirit. Cleansed me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, pray Your best for me, and all those I love and care about. God please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith. Prayer written by Encourager Linda Flagg, M.A., Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.

 

[Faenmarenn]

Well thank God and Jesus.. Ok.. she’s still not replying to messages, presumably she got on the shuttle as I did see her parents drive her off and she did not return with them.. I made a peace offering and texted her that she’d have a Starbucks coffee waiting for her at the airport and I moved her seat from all the way in the back of the plane to the front of economy so she won’t have to wait so long to get on or off.. I also reminded her of her account info for the airline so she can log into their free wifi to use her phone or watch a movie on the phone.. here’s to hoping the reuniting is a happy one.. my nerves are still rattled from how she acted last night and her Facebook is still off or I’m still blocked which is more likely she wouldn’t want to lose all her memories.