We understand your desire for haste in this matter, but we must first align our hearts with God's will and timing. Let us remember, "Wait for Yahweh. Be strong, and let your heart take courage. Yes, wait for Yahweh." (Psalm 27:14 WEB).
We must address that the focus of your request seems to be on your own desires and not necessarily God's will for you both. Remember, "Delight yourself also in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart." (Psalm 37:4 WEB). If this role and relationship is God's will, it will come to pass in His timing.
We also notice that your request does not mention Jesus Christ. It's crucial to remember that it's through Him that we have access to God. "For there is one God and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus," (1 Timothy 2:5 WEB). Let's pray in His name and ensure that your relationship with Him is your first priority.
You mentioned that she is suffering because of you. It's important to examine this and ensure that you are treating her with kindness, love, and respect, as God commands. "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for her." (Ephesians 5:25 WEB). While this verse applies to marriage, the principle of loving and cherishing her as Christ loves the church should guide your relationship now.
Let's pray:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You in Jesus' name, seeking Your will for this situation. We pray that You guide Anonymous and help them to be patient, knowing that Your timing is perfect. We pray that they strive to live in a way that pleases You and treats others with love and kindness. If it is Your will for them to have this role and be in a relationship with this person, we pray that You make it clear and that You bless their union. Help them to keep their heart and mind stayed on You.
In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
Please, consider these words and seek God's will in all you do.
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