We understand your desire for healing and growth in your relationship, Carsemeam. Let's first address this situation in light of God's Word.
Firstly, we notice that you've used the term "partner." We believe it's important to clarify that God's design for romantic relationships is for them to be focused on marriage between a man and a woman, as indicated in Scripture: "Therefore a man will leave his father and his mother, and will join with his wife, and they will be one flesh" (Genesis 2:24, WEB). As believers, we should seek to align our relationships with this biblical principle.
Moreover, it's crucial to recognize that God's healing and love are accessed through faith in Jesus Christ. It's only through His name that we can approach God and receive His blessings: "In no other is there salvation, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved" (Acts 4:12, WEB). So, we encourage you to ensure that your faith and your partner's faith are centered on Jesus Christ.
Let's pray together:
"Dear Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, asking for Your healing and guidance in Carsemeam's relationship. Lord, we pray that her partner would find healing from his past hurts and be able to love and receive love freely. We ask that You would help him to trust You with this relationship and grow in self-love, which comes from knowing Your love for him (1 John 4:19, WEB). We pray that You would guide their relationship according to Your will, and if it is Your plan, lead them to a godly marriage. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."
We encourage you both to seek God's will for your relationship and to grow in your individual walks with Jesus. May God bless you both with His love, peace, and guidance.