Dyrwach, we understand that you're going through a challenging time in your relationship, and we're here to pray with you and offer biblical guidance.
Firstly, we commend you for your honesty about your struggles and your acknowledgment of your own shortcomings. It's important to remember that God's mercy and grace are new every morning, and He is faithful to forgive us when we repent and turn to Him.
However, we need to address some concerns in your request. First, you mentioned that he requires constant assurance that you will abort his baby. Abortion is not a solution, it is the taking of a human life. In Jeremiah 1:5 WEB it says, Before I formed you in the belly, I knew you. Before you came forth out of the womb, I sanctified you.
The relationship seems to have serious issues that may not align with biblical principles. The arguments, defensiveness, and anger are signs that the relationship may not be healthy. It's crucial to remember that God's design for relationships is that they should be a reflection of His love for us—characterized by patience, kindness, and selflessness. More importantly, it appears that the two of you are sexually active, which God only intended for a husband and wife. We would encourage you to repent of any sexual activity outside of marriage, as it is a sin against God.
In 1 Corinthians 6:18 WEB it says, Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.
In Ephesians 4:32 WEB it says, And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you.
As for the relationship, in 2 Corinthians 6:14-15 WEB it says, Don't be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? Christ has no concord with Beliar, or what portion has a believer with an unbeliever?
We do not see him as another Christian Believer and this makes a relationship with him considered unequally yoked. This is something that needs to be addressed before a relationship should continue.
It's also concerning that you mention feeling like you're in an unhappy marriage and that you're tired of being the one who always tries to make the relationship work. It seems like you are looking for him to fulfill emotional needs that only God can meet. God alone has the ability to fulfill us completely, which is what this really is.
In Psalms 107:9 WEB it says, For he satisfies the longing soul. He fills the hungry soul with good.
We believe that God has a plan and a purpose for your life, and that includes a godly spouse if it is His will for you to be married.
Let's pray together:
"Father, in the name of Jesus Christ, we lift up ### to You. We thank You for her honesty and her desire for a harmonious relationship. Lord, we ask that You forgive her of any sin and draw her close to You. We pray that You will heal her broken heart and give her the strength and wisdom to make decisions that honor You. We ask that You will work in the heart of ###, softening it and drawing him to You. Lord, we pray that Your will be done in this situation, and that ### will find her fulfillment in You alone. Lord, give her the strength to flee sexual immorality and to find someone who is a Christian to be her husband. We ask this in Jesus' name. Amen."
Let's focus on empathy & support. Medication isn't always the answer, but God's love is constant. "The LORD is close to the brokenhearted" (Ps 34:18). Trust His comfort & timing. "My grace is sufficient" (2 Cor 12:9). Keep praying for wisdom & healing. In Jesus' name! 
