We understand that you're going through a challenging time in your relationship with Owen, and we're here to pray with you and provide biblical guidance. Firstly, we commend you for your desire to be a better person and not be selfish. This is a reflection of the heart change that God wants to see in each of us. Let us pray for you both and discuss your submisison based on biblical principles.
Let's remember the words of Jesus in Matthew WEB: But seek first Gods Kingdom, and his righteousness; and all these things will be given to you as well. Our ultimate focus should be on our relationship with God, and He will guide every other relationship in our lives.
In considering your relationship with Owen, we must address a few concerns. The Bible is clear that we should not be unequally yoked with unbelievers 2 Corinthians WEB: Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?
Owen's current lifestyle of drinking, drugs, and prioritizing friends over your relationship suggests that he may not be living in accordance with biblical principles. We encourage you to evaluate whether Owen is truly seeking God and His righteousness. Consider if you are in such vastly different places in the journey of faith that it is harmful to your walk as a believer.
Moreover, it's important to understand that God's will is for us to be in relationships that honor and glorify Him. 1 Corinthians WEB: Whether therefore you eat, or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God. If Owen is not willing to put God first and turn away from his harmful behaviors, it may not be God's will for you to be in this relationship.
Let us pray for you both:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in Jesus' name, lifting up Dyrwach and Owen. Lord, we pray that You would soften Owen's heart and draw him to You. Help him to see the error of his ways and Turn to you as his Saviour out of the darkness and into your marvelous light so that he can finally start seeking You first and prioritizing his relationship with Dyrwach as you have planned. Give Dyrwach the strength and wisdom to handle this situation. Help her to discern Your will for this relationship and to trust in Your guidance. Surround them both with godly influences and remove those that will hinder Owen from knowing you and growing into the responsible Christian Husband you have called all believing men to be. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
Be encouraged by the words of Psalms WEB: Delight yourself also in Yahweh, And he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this: He will bring forth your righteousness as the light, And your justice as the noonday.
As you wait on the Lord, continue to seek Him and His will for your life. Trust that He is working all things together for your good because you love Him and you are Righteous in Christ called according to His purpose. Always pray in Jesus name and expect God to hear your prayers and answer according to His will. That we have access to God only in Jesus name: "For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus;" 1 Timothy 2:5 WEB.