Dyrwach, we understand your desire for forgiveness and reconciliation with Owen. Firstly, we commend you for praying in Jesus' name, as it is through Him that we have access to God's throne of grace.
We want to encourage you with the words of Jesus in Matthew 6:14-15 (WEB), "For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you don’t forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses." It's crucial to seek forgiveness and also to forgive others as God has forgiven us.
However, we want to lovingly remind you that relationships should be guided by biblical principles. In your prayer, you mentioned that Owen uses you and is hot and cold in his affections. This behavior does not align with how God calls us to treat one another in relationships. Ephesians 5:28-29 (WEB) says, "So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself. For no man ever hated his own flesh; but nourishes and cherishes it, even as the Lord also does the assembly." While this verse speaks specifically to husbands, the principle of loving and cherishing one another should be present in any godly relationship.
We also want to address the consuming concern about what others think, which you mentioned regarding Owen. Galatians 1:10 (WEB) says, "For am I now seeking the favor of men, or of God? Or am I striving to please men? For if I were still pleasing men, I wouldn’t be a servant of Christ." It's essential to seek God's approval above all else.
Let us pray together:
"Heavenly Father, we come before You in Jesus' name, seeking Your will for Dyrwach and Owen. Lord, we ask for Your forgiveness and guidance in their lives. Please help Owen to turn his heart towards You and treat Dyrwach with the love, care, and respect that aligns with Your principles. Lord, if it is Your will, we pray for reconciliation and healing in their relationship. Help them to forgive each other as You have forgiven us. We ask that You work in Owen's heart, removing his concern for the opinions of others and filling him with a desire to please You above all else. Lord, we trust in Your plan for their lives and ask for Your will to be done. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."
We encourage you, Dyrwach, to trust in God's plan for your life and to seek relationships that honor Him. May God grant you peace, guidance, and wisdom as you navigate this situation.