Losing hope

[Rulal]

I posted earlier about a test my husband needed to pass..Unfortunately, he did not pass. He is going to try again in 2 weeks… but my hopes aren’t that high. He has endless excuses regarding his addictions, he was high while he was studying last night and the last 2 weeks. It’s only marijuana, but we know that’s probably just not conducive to studying. One of the nights in the last week, he said he wanted to just have a couple drinks- and then after, he randomly decided to begin harassing me about a high school relationship (someone I haven’t spoken to in almost a decade and also nearly 5 years before I even met my husband) and threaten to divorce me.it was out of nowhere and it was like he was overtaken by something else that was not my husband. To be fair, he doesn’t usually drink or do that, but when he does occasionally drink, it sometimes resorts to things like that. We don’t usually fight or argue. Guess we’ll see what happens. He pushed off this test for months claiming anxiety while spending money we didn’t have on vape and nicotine cartridges and random workout supplements that contained addictive substances, getting high every day all day long and distracting himself by arguing about religious concepts or random things with people on social media in the comments for hours and hours a day, knowing I was pregnant and we were depending on this. And now it’s too late. He does have diagnosed anxiety, and probably some other psychiatric issues. He had a therapy appointment scheduled, he cancelled it. We can’t afford therapy that isn’t through his insurance and the waitlist is months, He won’t listen to me. He has a problem with spending money we don’t have, constantly using credit and bothering me about taking weekend trips- KNOWING we won’t have the money to pay for our life in less than a month. I don’t know what happened to this man, but something is not right. He has so many self destructive behaviors and he cannot control them. I’m fairly certain there is something demonic involved.now he didn’t pass this test. Im very worried about his addictions. He claims he’s “quitting” something every month or so, but then he just restarts it within 1-2 weeks, or his supply never runs out and he says over and over again for weeks this is all he has and he’s not going to buy anymore and what he has is “left over”. This has been going on for 2 years now. We’ve been married one year. I don’t have any addictions. I don’t use any substances. It’s hard for me to relate to this behavior. Were both religious. I’m too pregnant to fix this, and nobody is going to hire me for a second job. There’s nothing else I can do except hope we can somehow make it with this baby. My future is in Gods hands. He is devastated, and I have to act like I’m not giving up and like I’m fine, and everything is fine, and encourage him to take the test again- but internally I’m done, I’m panicked, I’m worried. I’m tired. I’ve bent over backwards for this man, making his life easy, doing 100% of the housework, helping with his classes he’s taking solely so we don’t have to pay his massive loans yet (he has a graduate degree- he’s need the increased income to pay these loans- it’s been 2 years since he graduated), working full time, taking any overtime I can while pregnant, not taking ANY days off, managing all the finances, encouraging him, do everything he asked- so he could pass this test. If foreclosure and endless financial torment is my future, then that’s what my future is. I love my husband, but his addictions, his lack of follow through, his lack of self control, the incessant lying- they are destroying everything. Thank you for your prayers. I hope I can find a way to climb out of this.

 

[Articles]

We are truly saddened to hear about the struggles you and your husband are facing, Rulal. Let's come together in prayer and seek God's guidance and intervention.

Firstly, let's address the issue of addiction. The Bible tells us in 1 Corinthians 6:12, "All things are lawful for me,' but not all things are expedient. 'All things are lawful for me,' but I will not be brought under the power of anything." Addiction is a form of bondage, and God desires for us to be free. Your husband's addiction to marijuana and other substances is not only harming him but also your marriage and future together.

Moreover, the reckless spending and financial mismanagement are also concerning. The Bible advises us in Proverbs 21:20, "There is precious treasure and oil in the dwelling of the wise; but a foolish man swallows it up." It's crucial to manage finances wisely and live within your means, especially with a baby on the way.

The spiritual warfare aspect you mentioned should not be overlooked. Ephesians 6:12 reminds us, "For our wrestling is not against flesh and blood, but against the principalities, against the powers, against the world's rulers of the darkness of this age, and against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places." Indeed, there may be demonic influences at play, but remember, "Greater is he who is in you than he who is in the world" (1 John 4:4).

Let's pray together:

"Dear Heavenly Father, we come before You in Jesus' name, lifting up Rulal and her husband. Lord, we ask for Your divine intervention in their lives. Please deliver her husband from the bondage of addiction and fill him with Your Holy Spirit. Help him to find the strength and self-control he needs to overcome his struggles. Guide them in their finances, that they may be good stewards of what You have given them. Protect their marriage and their future together. Bind any demonic influences and cast them out, in the mighty name of Jesus.

Father, we also ask for Your peace and comfort for Rulal. Give her the strength and patience she needs to support her husband and prepare for their baby. Help her to trust in You and Your plans for their future. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."

Rulal, continue to hold onto God's promises. Remember, "With God all things are possible" (Matthew 19:26). Keep praying, keep believing, and keep trusting in the Lord. Encourage your husband to seek help, both professionally and spiritually. It's important that he takes responsibility for his actions and seeks God's will for his life.

Lastly, we noticed that your request does not mention Jesus Christ explicitly. We want to remind you that it is through Jesus that we have access to God. As it is written in John 14:6, "Jesus said to him, 'I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.'" If you have not already, consider inviting Jesus into your life and your marriage. He is the only one who can save and transform us.

We are here for you, praying and believing with you for a positive change in your situation. May God bless you and your family.

 

[Gwalthad]

Praying for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[hostadmin]

We're here for you, dear friend. We can only imagine the weight you're carrying, but remember, God is always near. He sees you, He hears you, and He cares deeply about what you're going through. Let's keep lifting your situation up to Him in prayer.

We've been praying for your husband's deliverance from addiction, for wisdom in managing finances, and for protection over your marriage and future together. We've also been interceding against any spiritual attacks and asking God to fill your home with His peace and comfort.

We want to encourage you to keep trusting in God's plan for your lives. He has a purpose in all things, and even in the midst of these struggles, He is working for your good. Keep seeking Him, keep praying, and keep believing that He is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that you ask or think (Ephesians 3:20).

We're here to support you, to pray with you, and to remind you that you're not alone. Keep holding onto God's promises, and remember that with Him, all things are possible.

 

[Twigter]

Im so sorry for your hardships. I bless you and your husband in Jesus name. Weed and alcohol definitely open doors to the enemy, and as it sounds it's definitely demonic. I pray God will show up and give you wisdom and strength, and that your husband will be convicted by the Holy Spirit. Keep seeking Him, He's right with you. I also bless your pregnancy because I can imagine it all must be quite stressful. May God bless you in Jesus name, amen

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, soul, mind, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, and Your righteousness. Help and strengthen me God to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me. Deliver and cleansed me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the grace and knowledge of Christ Jesus. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by Encourager Linda Flagg, M.A., Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.

 

[hostadmin]

Thank you for giving us the privilege to pray on your behalf. We are glad that that you asked us to stand in agreement with you in prayer. If your request was answered, please post a praise report and let us all know. If your request does not seem to have been answered, please post it again as a new request and allow us to continue with you in prayer. We all hope that our prayers are answered in the way that we want. Sometimes we believe that God is not answering our prayers because we do not see what we expect. In these cases, we should persist in prayer and determine how God is answering our prayer. May God bless you as you continue to seek him through his son, Jesus Christ.