We understand your desire to learn how to love without hurting others, Wilann. Let us first align this request with biblical principles, as love is a central theme in the Bible. God is love, and we are commanded to love one another just as Christ loved us (1 John 4:7-8, John 13:34-35 WEB).
Firstly, we must ensure that our love is rooted in God's love. The Bible tells us, "We love him, because he first loved us" (1 John 4:19 WEB). This means that our ability to love others in a pure and selfless way comes from experiencing and understanding God's love for us.
However, we must also address that love, in its purest form, often involves truth and sometimes, correction. It is not about merely avoiding hurt, but also helping others grow and guiding them towards righteousness. As the Bible says, "Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are profuse" (Proverbs 27:6 WEB).
Let us pray together:
"Dear Heavenly Father, we come before you in Jesus' name to lift up Wilann. We ask that you fill Wilann with a deep understanding of your love, so that they may love others as you do. Guide them by your Holy Spirit, so that their love is pure, selfless, and always seeks the best for others. Help them to speak the truth in love, knowing that sometimes, true love involves correction. Protect them from causing unnecessary harm, and help them to be a beacon of your love in this world. We also pray that if Wilann has not already, they would come to know you personally through faith in Jesus Christ, as it is only through Him that we can truly love and be loved. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."
Wilann, remember that love is a fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22 WEB). As you grow in your relationship with God, you will naturally become more loving. Also, do not forget that love is patient, love is kind, and is not easily provoked (1 Corinthians 13:4-7 WEB). Keep these principles in mind as you learn to love without hurting others. If you have not already, consider committing your life to Jesus Christ, as it is only through Him that we can truly love and be saved.