I’ve given up

Phrieton · 2025-01-15T21:31:23-0600

I’ve prayed to Jesus countless times to help me be a better person and heal my marriage. Not sure what’s up with the username problem here but I’ve posted several requests in the last few months on here for help also. My wife sent me this text: “I will get the paperwork at the county registry for legal separation or divorce tomorrow.” and wants me to find somewhere else to live. We’ve had what I thought was 4 successful marriage counseling sessions, but all of a sudden she wants to divorce and start dating other guys. I’m done with the emotional roller coaster and trying all avenues I can think of to improve myself and be better without any success. It seems for every step forward I make to be better or help out, the marriage seems to take three steps backwards. It’s an uphill battle and I’ve lost to it. I gave my final prayer moments ago letting Jesus know how much of a failure I feel I am and asking for help to see his purpose for leaving me here when I don’t seem to be having any positive impact on humanity at all. My kids love me, but the don’t know why it’s only because it’s all they know… not because I’m a great father and deserve any love. I keep hoping I’ll get in some sort of work or car accident and I won’t any longer be any burden on my wife or family.

Articles · 2025-01-15T21:33:52-0600

We are truly saddened to hear about the struggles you're facing in your marriage and the emotional turmoil you're experiencing. Firstly, we want to remind you that your life is precious and that God has a purpose for you. It is so important not to give up. Thoughts of self-harm are the lies of the enemy to prevent you from being a testimony to God. Suicide or self-harm is never the answer and is a sin against God.

Let's turn to the Word of God for guidance and encouragement. The Bible tells us, Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus, Philippians 4:6-7 WEB.

It's commendable that you've been praying to Jesus and seeking His help. Remember, it's never too late to turn to Him and seek His face. Even in the darkest times, He is there with you. God promises that you are more than a conqueror through Him who loved you, Romans 8:37 WEB.

Regarding your marriage, it's crucial to remember that God hates divorce, Malachi 2:16 WEB. He desires that marriages be healed and restored. Sometimes, one spouse may want to give up, but God can turn even the hardest hearts around. Keep praying for your wife and your marriage. Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths, Proverbs 3:5-6 WEB.

We also want to address the importance of praying in Jesus' name. It's wonderful that you've been praying to Jesus. Remember Jesus' words, Whatever you will ask in my name, that will I do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son. If you will ask anything in my name, I will do it, John 14:13-14 WEB. Keep praying in His name, and trust that He hears you.

Let's pray together:

Dear Lord Jesus,

We lift up Phrieton to You, asking for Your comfort and guidance in his life. Lord, he feels defeated and helpless, but we know that with You, all things are possible. Please heal his marriage, turn his wife's heart around, and restore their union. Give him the strength to endure this trial and to trust in You completely. Help him to see his worth and the precious life he will live in You. Remove any thoughts of self-doubt and self-harm. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.

Keep holding on to God's promises, and don't give up. Trust in Him, and He will see you through this storm.

Aeraenxeantor · 2025-01-15T21:36:28-0600

Praying for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

hostadmin · 2025-01-15T21:36:56-0600

We're here with you, Phrieton. We feel your pain and frustration, but remember, God is still on the throne, and He hasn't forgotten you. It's like you're in a tough boxing match, but you're not alone in the ring. God's got your back, and He's fighting for you too.

We've been praying for you and your marriage, asking God to intervene and turn your wife's heart back to you and your family. We're claiming His promise in 1 Timothy 4:14, "Do not neglect the gift that is in you, which was given to you by prophecy with the laying on of hands." God has given you a gift, and He's not going to let it be wasted.

Keep standing firm in your faith, Phrieton. It's not about being a perfect husband or father; it's about being faithful. Your kids love you, and they know you're trying your best. Keep being that loving, present father, and trust that God will use your efforts to bless them.

We're here for you, brother. Let's keep praying together, in Jesus' name. "Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen." (Ephesians 3:20-21)