Is this normal?someone please help me understand what's really ...

[texasgirl1985]

Is this normal?someone please help me understand what's really going on.my husband and i have been married 5 years and when we met we met through an online christian website.it so happen that i was asking for prayers about 7 years ago because i was getting anxiety attacks.he happen to be there on that christian website and from there he would call me everyday and we would have bible study's everyday through the phone and he would pray for me and i felt so encouraged cause i had never met anyone like him.so i started developing feeling for him and we started talking more and more for one year.my aunt who had adopted me and my sisters didn't want me talking to him and she was super strict.so then as the time when by she found out that my uncle was malesting me and she started treating me very badly she would accuse me over what he did to me and would always follow me all around the house to make sure that my uncle wouldn't do anything to me but she never left my uncle she just had suspicions that were true.and i was terrified of my uncle so i never said anything to her and the only thing i did do was tell the guy who i was talking to over the phone.my aunt then kicked me out of the house and i went and lived with my manager female friend.i didn't feel save there either and so then the man who i met asked me to move in with him and he's mother and so i did but the problem was that as soon as the lady met me she did not like me she would treat me wrong and since he wasn't my husband he never defended me from her.i then started meeting he's church friends and none of them seem to accept me either that of course was heart breaking because here i had hoped that they would accept me.i lived over there for about 3 months and then my husband (now) had a conversation with he's mother and they both agreed it be best for me to move back to texas and so then i did but i remember having so much pain and hurt because i felt rejected by all of them.i moved back to my aunt's home again i didn't have no where else to go and there i was started to be treated wrong again and so i then started getting phone calls and emails from my husband saying he had thought about it and he wanted me to move back to he's home.i still stayed and tried going to school and started working and moved in with my sister who was getting abused by her husband and so then i eventually moved back to he's home and with he's mother and so once i moved over there he decided to marry me but we didn't have a big wedding or anything and there was no family there supporting us.i remember feeling sad but content.so later on he started trying out to be a truck driver which turned out to be good for him but not for me because he's mom started putting pressure on him to get me to do truck driving with him cause she didn't want me staying with her while he was out truck driving.and i was terrified i didn't want to do the truck driving cause i had never even driven a car let alone a semi truck.i when to practice and everything but i would cry and cry i didn't want to do it.they then realized that it wasn't meant and i found a job at a local nursing home where i was truly blessed by wonderful people.i then had to quit that job because he's mother wasn't getting along with me she would hide her food in the room and toilet paper and i had no access to it but yet when i worked my husband would control all the money.things got hard and he got fired from he's job and then he started having problems with he's mother and we moved back together to texas because he felt he didn't have her support.and so once we were settled in our apartment within the 2 months she got in contact with him and said for us to move back to california because she missed him so we did and i was afraid of her but i still stayed by he's side.we moved back and the first day we moved in back with her she was been mean to me she didn't want me using her toothpaste or pillows mean while we would get all our stuff from the u-haul.i tried to be strong and not let it get to me cause i knew he was happy.but then within months things got so bad that we had our own refrigerator in the room.and it just felt evil been there with her.it didn't last to long when we moved to texas again and we moved into our own apartment and moths later there she was trying to contact him again offering money,houses,car,if he would divorce me and move back with her.he started fighting with me and he would call her everyday and he was unemployed i was out looking for jobs .and god blessed me with my job in 2010 and i was paying the bills staying over time,going in for extra hours.and so i then had a panic attack cause one day i caught him talking very bad and hurtful things about me to he's mother.i decided to forgive him cause he is my husband and he eventually stopped talking to her for 3 years.and this year he contacted her and they started to talk again and she recently came down to visit him.and she asked me for forgiveness but i didn't feel it was an honest apology and so for 3 years i worked to support him while he went to school.and he also just gratuated this year from college and i feel hurt because now that he finished school and God blessed him with the great job he say's he did it all on he's own and that he doesn't need me because he has he's good job and he's mother who will always be there to support him.i have no say in the house i can't even go buy something to eat if i want cause he has control of the bank cards,money,and he says he's car is he's he also just bought a motorcycle and paid it in cash and he won't even let me spend 30 dllrs on shoes.i am writing all this because i need prayer for guidance and wisdom i love him but i am super hurt.because he is constantly talking bad about me with he's mother now that she's back in he's life and puts me down he has even gone as far as having other women phone number in he's wallet and when i asked him why that phone number he said he didn't have to explain anything to me.on another note he never really tells me he loves me or shows me any type of affection and i always do.but another thing is he is trying to convince he's mother to move down to texas and i am afraid of her moving cause he says that when she does he will do lots of things with her like watch movies,go have dinners,or shopping and that i will not be included because he doesn't go with me when i go spend time with my sister and it's not that he's not invited he just chooses not to go cause he says that he don't like been around my sister.i don't know what to do he is constantly making me feel bad,he puts me down and compares me to other women and he threatens me with not having me around when he's mother moves to texas.which will happen when she sales all her homes in califonia.i need prayer i don't know if God can still change him or it's best for me to move on with my life.he has all the money saved and and my paychecks also get saved in he's account.i just ask for prayers please like i said on my other post i don't want to live my life with guilt,shame,fear,lying,and by lying i mean like for example:if i don't feel like going in to work cause i don't feel well i have to tell him i am off that day so he doesn't get mad and forces me to go in that day to work.i know lying ain't right but i feel horrible cause i don't know how to put a stop to him and to stop letting him control me every way,he doesn't take me out no where all the shopping is done online unless he has to go to the store he will.movies have to be watched at home cause he don't want to spend money to go to the movies.and restaurant he don't go cause it's alway too much money and maybe fast food but now not even that cause we need to stay in shape.so please help me by praying thank you and GOD BLESS YOU

 

[Articles]

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[Wordship5091]

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[Hope]

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[hisfaceiseek]

Lord God, I ask that you grant this saint favor. In Jesus name, Amen

 

[Don]

Hebrews 4:16

Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need.

My wife and I am praying now in Jesus name for your request.

 

[ARHicks]

I prayed for this. In Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[hostadmin]

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[xxmelisaxx]

I prayed for u read psalm 91 God has given husbands clear-cut instructions in Ephesians 5:25-28: "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it.... So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loves his wife loves himself."

To wives, His instruction is to respect their husbands (v. 33) and both are to submit to one another (Ephesians 5:21).

God knows the pain of an unhappy marriage, and He understands fleshly desires, but He has given His Word to us on this matter and He does ask for obedience. Obedience to God always brings joy (Romans 16:19).

The husband is to love his wife above all other human beings. Consider Eph. 5:25 and 28; and Col. 3:19. These passages teach that the husband is to be considerate and tender. The verses in Ephesians 5 teach that the husband is to cherish his wife. This means that she is to be treated with tenderness and affection. This would mean that since love must be fed, there is to be a warm demonstrative love relationship. The husband has the responsibility of not only demonstrating his love and concern, but telling her. He should not sit in such self-absorption that he does not talk with her and communicate with her socially, mentally, verbally and physically.

I Peter 3:7, teaches that the husband is to honor his wife. She gave up her name to take yours. Honor means that you should show her respect and this involves courtesy, consideration and emotional support. Be sure that as her husband that you do not hold her up to ridicule in public by the cutting remarks that you make. She wears YOUR name and is to viewed as part of your body. She is not perfect and you are aware of this. Do not expect perfection, but as Ephesians 4:32 teaches, "forbear one another". This means to be gentle toward her. Control of temper, abstaining from physical violence and restraining a sharp tongue that makes one feel so inferior - are ways by which you can exhibit forbearance.

"Be considerate as you live with your wife, with respect ..."(I Peter 3:7) The Bible says that if we neglect this command, our prayers will be hindered! To be considerate, quit any irritating habits! When she needs to be helped carrying heavy items, do it! If she needs time you can take care of the family! Help your wife with all of your energy, show your love to her with all consideration. Pray to see where you may be inconsiderate.

"Do not be harsh with your wife."(Colossians 3:19) When a wife is sensitive realize that harsh answers, angry looks, irritated tones of voice and impatience will deeply affect your wife. Rejoice that she is a lady and isn't like you - remember that she is a precious gift God has given you.

The husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife."(I Corinthians 7:3-5) Please your wife physically. Don't deprive her of what she needs. Sexual pleasure is something that is given, not forced or taken. Discuss what her needs are both inside and outside of the bedroom.

Colossians 3:19 ESV / 62 helpful votes

Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them

if he is harsh with you remember to tell him god will hinder his prayers for it

 

[faithope]

Dear Lord, if we put You first in our heart and lives, You will become our strong Rock and Foundation of our marriage.  And to put You first in our lives is to talk and confide daily of our problems, hurts and issues to You as You are our dear Friend and Father. May we also read daily Your word/bible diligently for Your word/bible is like a map and the answers to every of our problems.  And if we are not connected to Your church, may we do so as Your servants will be able to minister and pray for us as we ask all these in Your mighty Name, Jesus, amen and amen.

[SIZE=.75em] [/SIZE]Whoever comes to Me, and hears My sayings and does them, I will show you whom he is like: [SIZE=.75em]48 He is like a man building a house, who dug deep and laid the foundation on the rock. And when the flood arose, the stream beat vehemently against that house, and could not shake it, for it was founded on the rock.[/SIZE][SIZE=.65em][a][/SIZE] [SIZE=.75em]49 But he who heard and did nothing is like a man who built a house on the earth without a foundation, against which the stream beat vehemently; and immediately it fell.[/SIZE][SIZE=.65em][b][/SIZE] And the ruin of that house was great.â€-Luke 6

Unless the Lord builds the house,
They labor in vain who build it;
Unless the Lord guards the city,
The watchman stays awake in vain.
[SIZE=.75em]2 It is vain for you to rise up early,[/SIZE]
To sit up late,
To eat the bread of sorrows;
For so He gives His beloved sleep.-Psalm 127