ConfusedandHurt
Disciple of Prayer
I have been married for 27 years and have three wonderful children ages 21, 18, and 16. My husband has cheated on my several times throughout my marriage, 3 times that I had solid proof and even with proof he didn't always admit it. Once with my best friend (we were only married 1 1/2 years), once with my neighbor and close friend while I was pregnant with our third child, and this last time in 2012 with his secretary. He was her boss so he got fired after 28 years on the job. We were separated up until he got fired and then I feared that he would harm himself, not to mention he was driving me and the kids totally crazy bugging us because he was devistated that I kicked him out of the house.
I've always believed in my heart that divorce is wrong in God's eyes unless it's because of physical harm/abuse. I am struggling with my decision on divorce. I have no feelings for my husband other than I care about his well being for my children's sake because I lost my father at a young age and would never want my kids to endure that pain. We have not been intimate for over 4 years, since he started this last affair and I do believe there were other affairs that never came to light. I had to actually 'catch' him, he never admitted when I would ask him for the two years that I suspected.
I just want to do what God would want me to do. I do not want to commit a sin if I can bare being so lonley in this marriage. I know my kids are 'less hurt' by me staying with their father as well, every child or even adult wants their parents together.
I often think I'm doing the wrong thing by staying and have prayed for God's guidance but I'm the type of person that needs God to HIT ME OVER THE HEAD when He's telling me something.
Please pray for God to work in my life and show me the path that He would like me to take. Also, any advice from fellow Christians on their understanding of the Bible's laws on divorce.
Thank you very much!
I've always believed in my heart that divorce is wrong in God's eyes unless it's because of physical harm/abuse. I am struggling with my decision on divorce. I have no feelings for my husband other than I care about his well being for my children's sake because I lost my father at a young age and would never want my kids to endure that pain. We have not been intimate for over 4 years, since he started this last affair and I do believe there were other affairs that never came to light. I had to actually 'catch' him, he never admitted when I would ask him for the two years that I suspected.
I just want to do what God would want me to do. I do not want to commit a sin if I can bare being so lonley in this marriage. I know my kids are 'less hurt' by me staying with their father as well, every child or even adult wants their parents together.
I often think I'm doing the wrong thing by staying and have prayed for God's guidance but I'm the type of person that needs God to HIT ME OVER THE HEAD when He's telling me something.
Please pray for God to work in my life and show me the path that He would like me to take. Also, any advice from fellow Christians on their understanding of the Bible's laws on divorce.
Thank you very much!
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