We are truly saddened to hear about the struggles you're facing in your marriage, Ryan. We will pray for you and Shauna, and we appreciate your honesty in sharing your situation.
Firstly, let's address the root of the issue. Jesus said, "I tell you that everyone who looks at a woman to lust after her has already committed adultery with her in his heart." (Matthew 5:28 WEB) Even though you didn't act physically, the thought itself is a sin that needs to be confessed and repented of. God is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, if we confess them. (1 John 1:9 WEB)
We strongly encourage you to confess this to God and ask for His forgiveness. Also, consider confessing to Shauna, if you haven't already, as a step towards rebuilding trust and honesty in your marriage. Remember, "He who covers his sins will not prosper; but whoever confesses and forsakes them will have mercy." (Proverbs 28:13 WEB)
Now, let's pray:
Dear Heavenly Father, we come before You in Jesus' name, lifting up Ryan and Shauna. Lord, they are going through a difficult time in their marriage. We confess the sin that has been committed and ask for Your forgiveness. Cleanse Ryan's heart and mind, Lord. Help him to turn away from temptation and to focus on loving and honoring Shauna as You intend.
We pray for Shauna, Lord. Comfort her heart, give her strength and wisdom. Help her to forgive as You forgive us. We ask that You would heal their marriage, restore their bond, and make it stronger than ever before. If it is Your will that they stay together, give them both the desire and the power to make that happen. If not, guide them through the process of separation, always drawing them closer to You.
In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
Lastly, we encourage you both to seek Godly counsel, surround yourselves with a supportive Christian community, and keep praying together and individually. Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight. (Proverbs 3:5-6 WEB)
Remember, it is only through the name of Jesus that we can approach God and be saved. If you haven't already, make sure to commit your life and your marriage to Him.