Jonathan B.
Humble Prayer Partner
I'm a guy, almost 40, single, abandoned by my family and with no friends and I really need the prayer as I'm struggling right now. Please pray for God to be the father that I've never had but always desired, please pray for Him to show me His love, protection, mercy, grace, and blessings.
I'll try my best to keep this short. I was small for my age, had a learning disability, was over two years behind my peer group with my hormonal development, and always tried to go against the flow to do what God wanted me too. Because of those things and I guess I was an easy target because I was and am very tenderhearted, I was bullied by my peers, teachers, and even at church for my whole childhood, during this time and up into my late twenties until I severed ties with him my dad was verbally, emotionally, and spiritually abusive to my mom and I. Even after taking a full time job I stayed at home because seeing his increasing violence made me fearful for my mom's safety. Long story short my dad admitted under oath that he had heard voices in the middle of the night telling him to get a butcher knife and to kill my mom and I in our sleep. He still to this day sends me birthday and Christmas cards telling me that I'm going to hell for helping my mom and for setting my boundaries with him.
I've gotten counsel from several trusted pastors and a psychologist who have helped me understand the importance of removing myself from that toxic environment. That said, I continue to be bullied at work despite a co-worker and I going to our manager who does nothing about the situation. I'm stuck in a house that I purchased hastily right before the crash in 2008 that leaks when it rains and that I don't have the money to fix and get out of... There's quite a bit more that out of brevity I'll leave out because I think this should paint the picture...
Let me preface by saying that I have very, very few memories from childhood all the way into my 30's...
In all of this I've found out that I have something called Complex PTSD. Here's a link to an article: https://flyingfreenow.com/emotional-spiritual-abuse-causes-c_ptsd/
In all of this I really need to see God work on my behalf... I need to see and experience His protection for me... I need healing... I need to see some of my broken dreams, hopes, and good desires resurrected. And, I need to know that I'm not going to be totally and completely alone on this earth when the time comes for my mom to go be with Jesus.
According to the "love languages" survey my primary and overwhelming one is physical affection, followed closely by quality time. One of the few memories that I have is playing outside by myself at 5 or 6 years old, singing the praise songs that we sang at church, and praying for God to bring me just one real friend... I remember even then knowing the desire to have a wife and children of my own as well... Knowing that if that friend was someone that I could be affectionate with that I wanted it to be a girl. Long story short, I've been praying for that for around 35 years without answer... I thought I had that once but, evidently God had other plans and took her away from me...
In all of this I get the usual encouragement... God will do something for you soon! Everything will get better!!! Don't worry, God loves you and He'll be your father and show you His love... Remember Romans 8:28... And yes, I have read the verses where Jesus says that if we just ask in His name that God will do it for us, I keep seeing the verses where Jesus talks about the child asking for bread and fish, and I have read about God being a father to the fatherless and giving us the desires of our hearts... I've known, had faith, trusted, and believed that He can do anything by just saying the word since I was a child... I've looked at God as my one and only "superhero" with all power... But, as the years and decades go by, and more and more horrible things happen I'm losing hope. I'll be 40 on March 7th and I'll be honest, I'm really starting to feel that those biblical promises don't pertain to me. I guess it's hard when you see those around you blessed beyond belief and taking it all for granted while your hopes and dreams are all broken and scattered as you get older and realize that those things were dependent on your youth...
I keep hearing and reading words, words, words... but, I've gotten to a place where I've suffered for so long that I need action... words are hollow and meaningless without seeing action from them and that's where I am right now...
Please pray for me!!!
Merry Christmas to you all!!!
I'll try my best to keep this short. I was small for my age, had a learning disability, was over two years behind my peer group with my hormonal development, and always tried to go against the flow to do what God wanted me too. Because of those things and I guess I was an easy target because I was and am very tenderhearted, I was bullied by my peers, teachers, and even at church for my whole childhood, during this time and up into my late twenties until I severed ties with him my dad was verbally, emotionally, and spiritually abusive to my mom and I. Even after taking a full time job I stayed at home because seeing his increasing violence made me fearful for my mom's safety. Long story short my dad admitted under oath that he had heard voices in the middle of the night telling him to get a butcher knife and to kill my mom and I in our sleep. He still to this day sends me birthday and Christmas cards telling me that I'm going to hell for helping my mom and for setting my boundaries with him.
I've gotten counsel from several trusted pastors and a psychologist who have helped me understand the importance of removing myself from that toxic environment. That said, I continue to be bullied at work despite a co-worker and I going to our manager who does nothing about the situation. I'm stuck in a house that I purchased hastily right before the crash in 2008 that leaks when it rains and that I don't have the money to fix and get out of... There's quite a bit more that out of brevity I'll leave out because I think this should paint the picture...
Let me preface by saying that I have very, very few memories from childhood all the way into my 30's...
In all of this I've found out that I have something called Complex PTSD. Here's a link to an article: https://flyingfreenow.com/emotional-spiritual-abuse-causes-c_ptsd/
In all of this I really need to see God work on my behalf... I need to see and experience His protection for me... I need healing... I need to see some of my broken dreams, hopes, and good desires resurrected. And, I need to know that I'm not going to be totally and completely alone on this earth when the time comes for my mom to go be with Jesus.
According to the "love languages" survey my primary and overwhelming one is physical affection, followed closely by quality time. One of the few memories that I have is playing outside by myself at 5 or 6 years old, singing the praise songs that we sang at church, and praying for God to bring me just one real friend... I remember even then knowing the desire to have a wife and children of my own as well... Knowing that if that friend was someone that I could be affectionate with that I wanted it to be a girl. Long story short, I've been praying for that for around 35 years without answer... I thought I had that once but, evidently God had other plans and took her away from me...
In all of this I get the usual encouragement... God will do something for you soon! Everything will get better!!! Don't worry, God loves you and He'll be your father and show you His love... Remember Romans 8:28... And yes, I have read the verses where Jesus says that if we just ask in His name that God will do it for us, I keep seeing the verses where Jesus talks about the child asking for bread and fish, and I have read about God being a father to the fatherless and giving us the desires of our hearts... I've known, had faith, trusted, and believed that He can do anything by just saying the word since I was a child... I've looked at God as my one and only "superhero" with all power... But, as the years and decades go by, and more and more horrible things happen I'm losing hope. I'll be 40 on March 7th and I'll be honest, I'm really starting to feel that those biblical promises don't pertain to me. I guess it's hard when you see those around you blessed beyond belief and taking it all for granted while your hopes and dreams are all broken and scattered as you get older and realize that those things were dependent on your youth...
I keep hearing and reading words, words, words... but, I've gotten to a place where I've suffered for so long that I need action... words are hollow and meaningless without seeing action from them and that's where I am right now...
Please pray for me!!!
Merry Christmas to you all!!!