I'm 14 and accidentally broke a vow to God, what should I do?

[Halouron]

This isn't a prayer request but I need advice. I am 14 years old and ascetic by choice, and I made a vow of silence so I could focus on God and practice self discipline. I have never made a vow of silence and was originally going to do it for 3 days, but my mom kept yelling at me and getting mad because I couldn't communicate. She was originally supportive of my decision to do this, but now she gets mad and refuses to interact with me in the way that I can (gestures, facial expressions, ect). Earlier, she went into my room and started teasing me about my lack of clothes (because I had just got out of the shower) and was playfully acting like she was going to hit me. I had no way to object because I couldn't say her teasing me was bothersome, and so I just let her. She then stepped out of my room and said the name of our 10 year old boy neighbor (who visits sometimes) and I was scared he would see me. I asked her out of fear to close my door and realized I broke my vow. I have been keeping my promise for 2 days (since new years) and I don't know what I should do. Should I ask for forgiveness or should I keep on with the vow for the last day?

 

[Articles]

We understand that you're seeking advice on a vow you made to God and accidentally broke. Let's consider what the Bible says about vows and how we should handle them.

In Ecclesiastes 5:4-5 WEB, it says, "When you vow a vow to God, don’t defer to pay it; for he has no pleasure in fools. Pay that which you vow. It is better that you should not vow, than that you should vow and not pay."

Firstly, we commend your desire to focus on God and practice self-discipline. However, it's important to ensure that our spiritual practices are in line with biblical principles and done in a manner that honors God.

Given that you are 14 years old, it's also crucial to honor your parents and maintain open communication with them. In Ephesians 6:1-2 WEB, it says, "Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 'Honor your father and mother,' which is the first commandment with a promise."

Your situation highlights the importance of communicating your spiritual decisions with your family and ensuring that they understand and support you. It might have been beneficial to set clear boundaries and explain your vow to your mother beforehand.

Regarding your broken vow, it's essential to remember that God looks at the heart. You did not break your vow intentionally or out of disrespect for God, but out of a immediate concern for modesty, which is commendable. In 1 Samuel 16:7 WEB, it says, "But Yahweh said to Samuel, 'Don’t look on his face, or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him; for I see not as man sees, for man looks at the outward appearance, but Yahweh looks at the heart.'"

We advise you to pray and ask God for forgiveness, not necessarily because you broke your vow intentionally, but because you feel you have fallen short. God is merciful and understanding. Then, you can decide whether to continue the vow for the last day or not. It's important to ensure that your spiritual practices do not cause unnecessary tension in your family.

Let's pray together:

Dear Heavenly Father,

We come before You, lifting up this young person who desires to honor You through their actions. Lord, we ask for Your forgiveness if there was any misstep, and we pray for guidance and wisdom. Help them to communicate effectively with their family and to maintain a balance between their spiritual practices and their familial responsibilities. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.

Lastly, we notice that Jesus Christ or any of His names was not mentioned in your request. It is very important to know that Jesus said "I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me." This means salvation and a right relationship with God is through Jesus Christ and no one else. Make sure to believe in Him.

 

[hostadmin]

We're here for you, friend. It's tough when we feel like we've let God down, but remember, He loves you and wants the best for you. In situations like this, it's important to seek His face and His will.

First, let's ask for forgiveness, not because we're guilty of some terrible sin, but because we want to align our hearts with His. Then, let's ask Him what He wants us to do next. Should we continue with the vow for the remaining day, or should we focus on mending our relationship with our mom?

It's great that you're seeking to honor God with your silence, but it's also crucial to honor your parents. Maybe you could find a way to communicate your vow to your mom without breaking your silence. Perhaps you could write her a note, or use a communication app that doesn't require speaking.

Let's pray together:

"Dear Heavenly Father, we come to You now, seeking Your wisdom and guidance. We ask for forgiveness for any missteps, and we ask that You help us to honor You in all things. Give us wisdom to know how to communicate effectively with our families, and help us to balance our spiritual practices with our familial responsibilities. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."

 

[bobr69]

Praying for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[flora]

Praying for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Saraha]

Praying for you. Heavenly Father hear our prayers. In Jesus Name I Pray Amen

 

[Wyekul]

Hello, vows like this are more of a form of penance for monks and nuns living in cloistered monastery than for a regular person. In regards to silence, God would prefer us to go without social media, TV and other distractions and cultivate an interior and exterior silence, which doesn't involve not speaking. Interior silence being a form of recollection and peaceful prayer, and external silence avoiding TV, video games and other kinds of distractions as much as possible. I would recommend to you as a young person to spend a 3 day weekend fasting from social media or other forms of entertainment to focus on prayer, good works, and spending time with family. If that family time involves a movie or something this is fine too, because it is good to give of ourselves some time to loved ones and friends. I would not avoid speaking unless the conversation is gossip or sinful.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, soul, mind, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, and Your righteousness. Help and strengthen me God to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me. Deliver and cleansed me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the grace and knowledge of Christ Jesus. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by Encourager Linda Flagg, M.A., Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.

New Year's Prayer 2025

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[usha rani]

Praying for this in Jesus Name.

 

[Cinu]

Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

Help in Prayer

Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)

Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)


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