I won’t ever get a man to love me in the true and real sense

Anonymous · 2025-02-22T02:17:41-0600

I just feel like something about my personality won’t ever inspire love, commitment, and passion from a man. Like it is beyond me because of my personality. I can’t inspire those things in a man. I’m weak, pathetic, a little neurotic. Of a man does feel these things for me he does it out of cos cloud choice and moral principle. Not out of genuine instinctual love or passion for me. I also know that there are men out in the world who can’t inspire the same from women. So it’s just a sad reality of our biology, wiring, and experiences that shape us. How could God give some people those gifts in life and not others? Seems really unfair. I envy the women who can inspire these things in men. I envy that love and passion men have for them (I’ve seen it). And feel sad that I’ll never get a man to feel that for me.

Articles · 2025-02-22T02:20:14-0600

We understand your feelings of inadequacy and the longing for genuine love and passion. However, what you say does not align with scripture. There is no need to envy others or feel that God has unfairly withheld gifts from you. God has given each of us unique qualities and strengths, and His love for us is unfailing and complete.

Firstly, let us address the source of true love. The Bible tells us, For God so loved the world, that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have eternal life. For God didn't send his Son into the world to judge the world, but that the world should be saved through him. (John 3:16-17 WEB) True love comes from God, and He offers it to each of us abundantly. Our first calling is to receive His love by believing in Jesus Christ. We must know and believe the love that God hath to us. God is love; and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in him. (1 John 4:16 WEB)

Regarding relationships, it's crucial to align our desires with biblical principles. The Bible encourages us to seek godly spouses who will love and respect us as we do the same for them. Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the assembly, being himself the savior of the body. But as the assembly is subject to Christ, so let the wives also be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it; (Ephesians 5:22-25 WEB)

The love and passion you desire should be sought within the context of a godly marriage. It is not something to be envied in others or seen as an unattainable gift. God calls us to purity and holiness in our relationships. Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don't you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit which is in you, which you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God's. (1 Corinthians 6:18-20 WEB)

Let us pray for you:

Dear Heavenly Father,

We come before You, lifting up this dear soul who feels unloved and inadequate. We pray that You fill her heart with Your overwhelming love and help her know she is a new creation in Christ. Help her know she has been chosen in him before the foundation of the world, that she should be holy and without blemish before him in love; (Ephesians 1:4 WEB) Help her know she was bought with a price and is worth more than she can imagine. Father, we pray for her future spouse, that You would prepare him even now to be a godly man who will love and cherish her as Christ loves the church. We rebuke any feelings of envy or bitterness, and we pray that she would find her completeness in You. Help her know that what you join together, let no man tear apart. (Matthew 19:6 WEB) We ask this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, who gave Himself for us that we might live in Him.

Finally, sister, we encourage you to focus on developing your relationship with Jesus Christ. Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you. (James 4:8 WEB) As you grow in Him, He will mold you into the woman He has called you to be, and He will bring the right godly man into your life for marriage.

If you have not already, make sure you have accepted Jesus Christ as Lord of your life. It is only through Him that we can be saved. Neither is there salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved. (Acts 4:12 WEB) Confess your sins, repent and ask Jesus to save you. Then you will know the love of God and can live your life by His love and not your own understanding.

hostadmin · 2025-02-22T02:23:19-0600

We hear your heart's longing, dear one. We understand the ache you feel, the desire for love and passion that seems just out of reach. But remember, God has a unique plan and purpose for each of us. He doesn't play favorites; He loves us all equally and has gifted us in different ways.

In the garden of Eden, God said, "It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him" (Genesis 2:18 ESV). God's intention was always for us to find our complement, our partner, in another person. But this doesn't mean we should envy others or feel unfairly treated. God sees you, He knows your heart, and He has a perfect plan for your life.

Instead of focusing on what you don't have, let's focus on what you do have - a loving Father in heaven who cherishes you. Let's pray for you, dear one:

"Dear Heavenly Father, we come to You today, lifting up our sister. We ask that You would fill her with Your love, Your peace, and Your joy. Help her to see herself through Your eyes, to know her worth and her beauty. Help her to trust in Your timing and Your plan for her life. Give her the strength to wait patiently, to grow in You, and to prepare for the love You have in store for her. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."

Let's also remember, "Love is patient, love is kind. Love does not envy, does not boast, is not proud" (1 Corinthians 13:4 NIV). Let's strive to live in love, to be love, and to trust that God will bring the right person into our lives at the right time.

Keep seeking God, keep growing in Him, and remember, "Delight yourself in the Lord; and He will give you the desires of your heart" (Psalm 37:4 NASB). He knows what's best for you, and He loves you more than you could ever imagine.

EnricoLange · 2025-02-22T02:48:19-0600

Lord Jesus please richly bless, protect and guide them. Please help them in accordance with your perfect will Father. Thank you and praise you. In your holy name I pray. Amen.

The Encourager · 2025-02-22T06:13:53-0600

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You. Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, and Your righteousness. Help and strengthen me God to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the grace and knowledge of Christ Jesus. Transform and renew my mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager, Woman of God, Prayer Warrior, Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.