I wish my mom would see me ...

[Following The Way]

Sending prayers for you and your situation. I have a friend who is an unbeliever who also suffered from childhood rape and hasn’t been in any therapy. I’m here to pray on behalf of her soul but your post is where I landed at the moment. I just want to say You’re on a great path sister!

If I may tell you a lesser known fact about our God? God has a mothering heart as well. lean into understanding the mother heart of God. Embrace that aspect of God in your life you won’t have to seek that validation from your flawed earthly mother. There is much our earthly mothers and fathers couldn’t provide and they have wounded us simply cause they were wounded themselves and don’t know any different. But our God is more than adequate to heal and provide that validation you seek if we will let Him. This isn’t to attack our earthly parents or lessen them, nor dismiss their wrongdoing but it is actually the more loving thing to do. This act actually allows you to forgive them and releases you and them to be flawed humans just as we are. It releases them from the pressure we place on them. Sometimes we are looking for our parents to be our god when we need to be looking to the one true God.
God Bless you sis . Look heavenward . I will continue my prayers for you and your mom.

 

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[Nyfre]

I wish my mom would see me for me and not as her past traumas. She sees me as a whore because I was raped and she blamed me for it but she was also raped in her younger years and hasn't been to therapy for it or for the other types of abuse she endured, and because of this she mistreats me, or paints me as a whore, a liar, a manipulator and a lot of things when in reality I just want my mom to love me like a mom should. She also defends abusive men and villanizes their female victims. She has a lot of issues and I think she projects them to other women by treating them maybe how she feels about herself... I'm not sure but that is what my therapist said it could be. My mom is afraid of therapy and says that me advising her to go to therapy is me trying to convince her that she is crazy and that I am evil. I just want her to be ok with herself because if she is and she heals, she will be ok with me and won't be supporting abusive men or welcoming them into my life (like some family members), letting them abuse me in different ways and blaming me for it..they love it when she blames me for what they do or when she blames other girls for what those men do to them. She paints those guys as good people and the victims as villains. When I try to talk to her about it she hurts me more, and she always chooses the men, especially if they give her money, travels, a ride to somewhere, etc. I have been needing to let this out for some time now. Please pray for my mother's healing (for my healing too since I have been through a lot even thou I am thinking more about my mom and her wellbeing), for her to have wisdom and discernment when dealing with bad men and to look for godly men, godly people to befriend, and for her to come back to Christ.

I prayed for you and your mom in Jesus precious name Amen