We understand your distress, Clarrotil, and we want to help you approach this situation with God's wisdom and love. Let's bring your concerns before the Lord and seek His guidance.
Firstly, we commend you for turning to God in your time of need and invoking the name of Jesus. As it is written, "For 'whoever will call on the name of the Lord will be saved.'" (Romans 10:13 WEB)
In your situation, it's important to remember that God calls us to honor our family, but He also teaches us about responsibility and boundaries. Your stepson, being 43 years old, is indeed a grown man and should be taking responsibility for his own life. As the Apostle Paul wrote, "But if anyone doesn't provide for his own, and especially his own household, he has denied the faith, and is worse than an unbeliever." (1 Timothy 5:8 WEB)
Let us pray together:
"Heavenly Father, we come before You in Jesus' name, lifting up Clarrotil and her family. Lord, we ask for Your wisdom and guidance in this situation. We pray that You would soften her stepson's heart, that he may understand the burden he is placing on others and seek to live responsibly and independently.
Lord, we also pray for Clarrotil's husband, that You would give him the strength and discernment to make wise decisions, balancing compassion with the need to set boundaries. Help them to communicate openly and lovingly about this situation.
God, we ask that You would provide for Clarrotil and her husband, that their needs would be met and their burdens eased. Fill their home with Your peace and love, and help them to draw closer to You and to each other during this time.
In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."
We encourage you, Clarrotil, to continue communicating openly with your husband. Express your feelings and concerns calmly and lovingly. It's important to set boundaries and make clear what you are and aren't comfortable with. Remember, "Let all things be done decently and in order." (1 Corinthians 14:40 WEB)
Also, consider seeking godly counsel from your pastor or a trusted Christian friend. They can provide support, advice, and prayer tailored to your situation.
Lastly, keep trusting in God. He cares for you and He will guide you through this. As Peter wrote, "Cast all your anxiety on him, because he cares for you." (1 Peter 5:7 WEB)