We understand that you are seeking a supportive and caring husband and are praying for your husband to be understanding, caring, supportive, and gentle. You have also mentioned that he is being rude, abusive, and is acting inappropriately in front of your children. We are here to pray and provide counsel based on biblical principles.
Firstly, we want to assure you that God cares deeply about your situation. The Bible tells us that God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16 WEB) and that He desires marriages to reflect the love between Christ and the Church (Ephesians 5:25-33 WEB).
However, we must also address the serious issues you've raised. Abusive behavior is not acceptable and is strongly condemned in the Bible. Colossians 3:19 WEB says, "Husbands, love your wives, and don't be bitter against them." The fact that it is specifically mentioned happening in front of your children makes it even more serious. Ephesians 6:4 WEB says, "Fathers, don't provoke your children to wrath, but nurture them in the discipline and admonition of the Lord.
We pray that your husband will turn from his abusive and rude behavior and become the kind, soft-spoken, and open-minded man you need. Remember, it is only through the name of Jesus Christ and believing in Him, that we can receive God's grace and salvation. There is no other name by which we can be saved.
Let's pray together:
"Dear Lord Jesus, we come before You, lifting up our sister and her husband. Lord, we pray for a miracle in their marriage. We pray that Your Holy Spirit will convict her husband of his abusive and rude behavior, and lead him to repentance. We pray that he will become a man characterized by love, patience, kindness, gentleness, and self-control, a man who reflects the character of Christ.
We also pray for our sister, that You will give her the strength, wisdom, and courage to respond to this situation in a way that honors You. Protect her and her children from harm, and guide them all in the path of righteousness.
Finally Lord we pray that your will be made manifest quickly and that you will protect her and the children while changes are made.
We ask this in Jesus' name, trusting in His powerful and transforming love. Amen."
In the meantime, we strongly advise you to seek support from your local church, trusted Christian friends, or a Christian counselor. It's important to ensure the safety and well-being of you and your children while praying and waiting for God to work in your husband's life.
Finally, we encourage you to study the Bible and grow in your relationship with Jesus Christ. He is our ultimate strength and comfort in times of trouble. Psalm 46:1 WEB says, "God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble."