We are truly sorry to hear about the turmoil you're experiencing in your marriage, ###. Firstly, we want to remind you that God is always faithful, and He cares about your situation. Let's bring your concerns to the Lord in prayer.
Let us pray.
We plead the blood of Jesus Christ on this situation and this marriage. Heavenly Father, we come before You, lifting up our sister ### and her husband. Lord, You know the pain and heartache that adultery brings, and we ask for Your healing and restoration in their marriage. We pray for conviction in ###'s husband to bring him to confess and repent from his sin. We ask for supernatural strength and grace for ### to endure this trial and that she may be guided by Your wisdom and not by her emotions.
###, we encourage you to stand firm in your faith and to seek God's will in this situation. Remember the words of the Psalmist, Trust in Yahweh, and do good. Dwell in the land, and enjoy safe pasture. Also delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this: he will make your righteousness go forth as the light, and your justification as the noon day sun, (Psalm 37:3-6 WEB).
We must also remind you of the power of forgiveness. Jesus taught us in the Lord's Prayer to ask God to Forgive us our debts, as we also forgive our debtors, (Matthew 6:12 WEB). This does not mean that what your husband did is acceptable, but rather that you are releasing the offense to God and trusting Him to bring justice and restoration. It may not even mean reconciliation if your husband is unrepentant.
Forgiveness is a process, and it may not happen overnight. It may also require setting up boundaries to prevent repeated offense as may be happening now with your husband continuing to work night shifts with the woman he is having an affair with. He should confess this sin to those in authority at his work and make his best effort to avoid all contact with this woman. This is the path of repentance.
Seek godly counsel and guidance from your pastor or a trusted Christian mentor as you navigate this difficult time. We should not allow sin to remain unrebuked, but instead we should help restore our brother's and sister's in Christ, following the guidance in Galatians 6.
Consider the following, ###. If your husband has a profession of faith in Jesus Christ, then approach your pastor and ask them to initiate the first steps of church discipline as outlined in Matthew 18. However, if your husband is unrepentant and does not confess this sin to restore your marriage, then you should consider what actions you should take. Scripture does not require a Christian to remain married to an unrepentant adulterer, but does allow for divorce and remarriage in cases of adultery. Finally, if your husband is not a Christian believer, then you may want to consider what 2 Corinthians 6:14 says about being unequally yoked with an unbeliever.
It is only by the name of Jesus that we are able to come to God to ask for this forgiveness. There is no other name by which we can be saved. Therefore, let ###'s husband confess his sin and believe in Jesus Christ. That he may be saved. (Romans 10:9)
May God guide you and give you peace as you seek His face.