I hurt my ex-girlfriend so much

[batuhan]

My name is Batuhan, her name is Paulina. We were together for 4 years. She was perfect to me during our relationship, but I was usually very rude to her. I was yelling, swearing, trying to control her life. When she broke up with me, I suffered a lot. I found Jesus with the pain I suffered. She was a Christian and I always tried to keep her away from religion during our relationship. Maybe that was the biggest mistake I made. But thanks to her, I found Jesus. She thinks I am a narcissist and always says she hates me. Right now, all I want is for her to forgive me. I want that more than getting back into a relationship with her. Can you please pray for her to forgive me and for me to be a better person?

 

[Articles]

We are glad to hear that you have found Jesus, Batuhan, and we welcome you to the family of believers. We appreciate your honesty and your desire to seek forgiveness and become a better person. We will pray for both you and Paulina, but first, let's examine your situation through the lens of Scripture.

Your actions towards Paulina were not Christ-like, and you acknowledge this. The Bible tells us to love one another as Christ loved us and gave Himself up for us (Ephesians 5:2). Your behavior—yelling, swearing, controlling—did not reflect this love. You also tried to keep her away from her faith, which is a serious matter. It is a blessing that despite your actions, you both found your way to Jesus.

Paulina's feelings of hatred and her accusation of narcissism are a result of the hurt she experienced. It's important to understand that her forgiveness might not come quickly or easily, but it is ultimately what Jesus calls us to do (Matthew 6:14-15).

First, let's pray for you both:

Dear Heavenly Father,

We come before You in the name of Jesus, lifting up Batuhan and Paulina. Lord, we thank You for drawing Batuhan to Yourself, and we ask that You continue to transform him into the likeness of Your Son. Help him to become a man of integrity, kindness, and love. We pray for Paulina, that You would heal her wounds and soften her heart towards Batuhan, enabling her to extend the forgiveness that You have so freely given to us all.

Now, Batuhan, it's crucial that you demonstrate genuine repentance and change. Words alone may not be enough; Paulina needs to see that you are truly a new creation in Christ (2 Corinthians 5:17). Show her through your actions that you respect and value her. Even if she chooses not to reconcile the relationship, you can still live in a manner worthy of the Gospel (Philippians 1:27).

Remember, forgiveness does not necessarily mean reconciliation in a romantic sense. Sometimes, forgiveness leads to restored friendships, not necessarily romantic relationships. It's commendable that you're focusing on forgiveness rather than getting back together.

Lastly, continue to pray for Paulina, but also respect her boundaries and feelings. Pursue your own growth in Christ, and trust that God is working in both of your lives for His glory.

In Jesus' name, we pray for healing, forgiveness, and growth. Amen.

 

[hostadmin]

We're here with you, Batuhan. We understand the pain you're feeling and the weight of the hurt you've caused Paulina. We're praying for both of you, asking God to heal the wounds in Paulina's heart and to help you become the man God wants you to be.

We're reminded of the verse in 2 Corinthians 7:10, "Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death." We believe that your sorrow is genuine, and we're praying that God will use it to bring about true change in your life.

We're also praying for Paulina, asking God to soften her heart towards you and to give her the strength to forgive, just as God has forgiven us. We know that forgiveness is a process, and we're trusting God to work in her heart.

We're here to support you, Batuhan. Let's continue to lift you and Paulina up in prayer, trusting that God is at work in both of your lives. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.

 

[Rayyrr]

Praying in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Mimi A.]

Praying for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[batuhan]

Thank you all for your answers, beautiful feelings and faith. Maybe we had to go through all this because I have never felt worse in my life. It is not something I can accept to hurt "someone I love so much". Every day I feel better with the help of Jesus and with you. I don't know how she is because she doesn’t talk to me. My first request to God is for her to get better and forgive me.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, soul, mind, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, and Your righteousness. Help and strengthen me God to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me. Deliver and cleansed me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the grace and knowledge of Christ Jesus. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by Encourager Linda Flagg, M.A., Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.

New Year's Prayer 2025

be-an-encourager.blogspot.com

 

[usha rani]

Praying for this request in Jesus Name.

 

[Cinu]

Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

Help in Prayer

Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)

Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)


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[hostadmin]

We continue to lift you and Paulina up in our prayers, Batuhan. Thank you for giving us the privilege to pray on your behalf and for allowing us to stand in agreement with you in prayer. We are trusting God for a work of healing and reconciliation in both of your hearts.

If God has already answered your prayer and Paulina has found it in her heart to forgive you, we would be overjoyed to hear about it. Please share a praise report with our community, as your story can inspire others and testify to God's goodness.

If you have not yet seen the answer to your prayer, we want to assure you that we are still here for you. Sometimes, God's timing is different from ours, and He may be working in ways we cannot see. Please consider posting an update or a new request, so we can continue to pray with you and encourage you in this journey.

Our hearts are filled with hope for you, Batuhan. We pray that God continues to work in your life, molding you into the man He created you to be. May you find comfort and strength in Jesus Christ as you continue to seek Him. We are praying that Paulina's heart would be softened and that she would find the grace to forgive. We ask all of this in Jesus Name.