I hurt him and scared him away - please pray for forgiveness and a new chance

[Bainareth]

I datet a man for 2 months now. Never been so happy, feeling so secure. I have PTSD and I`m always hypervigilant, always looking out for dangers. Not just physically, but emotionally.
I never told him about my past, a violent marriage, nor about my PTSD - I thought it was premature. So the day I got triggered, out of the blue, and I pushed him away, certain that he`d eventually leave me, so I just left him first.....he got scared and deeply hurt. How would he know that when I push him away, that`s when I need him to pull me closer?
I never said anything, so I was triggered, totally irrational, dysregulated and sabotaged the relationship.
He was shocked, hurt and scared. So instead of talking, he just ended it back, saying this was too weird. And then he blocked me. No chance to explain.

I do really wish for you to pray with me, for reconciliation, forgiveness, a new chance - but if someone have thoughts about what I should do now, please let me know. We both felt like we were a match made in heaven, that God had sent us to eachother. But I blew it.
Please pray that he comes back, that his heart is willing to listen to me, please pray for clarity, what should I do or not do now....?

Thank you so much. I am so, so sad for hurting him and pushing away the best relationship I ever had.

 

[Articles]

Bainareth, we understand your pain and regret, and we're here to pray with you and offer guidance grounded in biblical principles. First, let's bring your situation before God. We are reminded in Philippians 4:6-7 WEB "In nothing be anxious, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus."

God, we come before You, lifting up Bainareth. We pray for her healing from her past trauma, for forgiveness, and for restoration in her relationship if it is in Your will. Help her to trust in your embrace that will never push away. We know that you are able to resurrect what was dead to life. We pray for Bainareth's reconciliation with this man in Jesus' name.

Now, let's address your situation. It's crucial to remember that God wants us to be truthful and open in our relationships. In Ephesians 4:25, WEB, it reads, "Therefore, putting away falsehood, speak truth each one with his neighbor. For we are members of one another." Keeping your past hidden from your relationship prevented him from understanding your actions. It's essential to be open about your struggles so that your partner can support and love you in a way that helps you feel secure.

Secondly, We have seen many other examples of Bibical relationships and how to treat one another. We see that Jesus promotes unity, openness, reconciliation, and understanding. He wouldn't want us to react out of our trauma but rather in his power. Ephesians 4:32 says, "Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you." Jesus taught us to love and forgive one another. The way God wants us to deal with our anger and frustrations is not to push one another away but rather to come together and handle our disagreements in love and unity.

Regarding your actions moving forward, it's important to respect his boundaries and distance right now. It is the most loving thing you can do now. Matthew 5:24 offers a great example when it says "leave your gift there before the altar, and go your way. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift." Before you offer your gift, apology or explanation, you first need to seek reconciliation in God's timing. We recommend that you do not be persistent, You may have the greatest explanation, but it would not be God's will to overcome his boundaries. Instead, pray that God softens this man's heart and opens a door for communication and reconciliation at the right time. It is out of your control.

You mentioned believing in God, but we also noticed that you did not invoke the name of Jesus Christ. We understand your pain with the hurt relationship, but we also need you to understand that the infinitely more important relationship is with Jesus Christ. Only the blood of Jesus has valid access to God. We believe the real issue is the need to be saved by Jesus Christ. He is the mediator between God and man. There is no other name in which we are saved, Acts 4:12. Please fix your eyes on Jesus Christ. This situation may be a wake-up call to your spiritual life. God loves you and may have ordained this situation as a wake-up call, seeing your need to come to the truth of Jesus Christ. If you feel that calling on your heart, you need to repent and be baptized, or endure the consequences.

Please know that all of these things are coherent with the fact that God wants us to be at peace. We know this because 1 Corinthians 14:33 says that God is not a God of confusion but a God of peace. We want you to be at peace and to have a heart of peace, a peace that overcomes all understanding and cast out anxiety.

We stand with you in prayer, seeking God's will for your life and this relationship. May
God's peace be with you.

 

[hostadmin]

Oh dear friend, we're here with you, feeling your pain and regret. We've been where you are, and we know it's a tough place to be. Let's pray together, shall we?

Lord Jesus, we come to You today, carrying Bainareth's heavy heart. We ask for her healing, for the wounds of her past to be mended, and for her relationship to be restored if it's Your will. Help her to trust in Your embrace, always there to pull her close, never to push away. You are the Great Physician, and we believe in Your power to heal and restore. We pray for Bainareth's reconciliation with this man, in Jesus' name.

We also want to encourage you, dear friend. It's important to be honest and open in our relationships, as Ephesians 4:25 tells us. Keeping your past hidden prevented him from understanding your actions. Trust is built on honesty, and it's essential to be open about your struggles so your partner can support and love you in a way that helps you feel secure.

Remember, Jesus wants us to love and forgive one another, as He forgave us. It's not about reacting out of our trauma, but responding in His power. Let's handle our disagreements in love and unity, not by pushing each other away.

For now, it's important to respect his boundaries and distance. Leave your gift before the altar, as Matthew 5:24 suggests, and first be reconciled to your brother. Don't be persistent, but pray that God softens his heart and opens a door for communication and reconciliation in His timing.

And dear friend, we noticed you didn't invoke the name of Jesus Christ in your prayer. We understand your pain, but we want you to know that the most important relationship is with Jesus Christ. Only through Him do we have access to God. This situation might be a wake-up call to your spiritual life. God loves you and may have ordained this situation to call you to the truth of Jesus Christ. If you feel that call, repent and be baptized, or endure the consequences.

Let's seek God's peace together, for He is not a God of confusion but a God of peace, as 1 Corinthians 14:33 tells us. We want you to have a heart of peace, a peace that overcomes all understanding and casts out anxiety.

We're standing with you in prayer, seeking God's will for your life and this relationship. May God's peace be with you, dear friend.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, soul, mind, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, and Your righteousness. Help and strengthen me God to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me. Deliver and cleansed me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the grace and knowledge of Christ Jesus. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by Encourager Linda Flagg, M.A., Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.

 

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Praying for this in Jesus Name.

 

[Cinu]

Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

Help in Prayer

Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)

Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)


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[hostadmin]

We continue to hold you up in prayer, dear sister, and we are grateful for the opportunity to intercede on your behalf. It is our heartfelt desire to stand in agreement with you, believing God for forgiveness, reconciliation, and a new chance for your relationship.

If God has already answered your prayer and you have seen positive changes in your situation, we would be delighted to hear your praise report. Your testimony will encourage us and strengthen our faith as we continue to pray for one another.

However, if your request does not seem to have been answered yet, we want you to know that we are still here for you. Please consider posting an update or a new request, allowing us to persist in prayer alongside you. We believe that God is faithful, and He will guide you every step of the way as you continue to seek Him through His son, Jesus Christ.

We are praying for clarity, that God would reveal to you the next steps to take. We are also praying for the young man, asking God to soften his heart, to remove any fear or hurt, and to open the doors for communication and reconciliation, if it is His will. We pray that God would heal both of your hearts and that His love would bring you both closer to Him and to each other.

Remember, God's timing is perfect, and He is working everything out for your good. Trust in Him, and let His peace guard your heart and mind in Jesus' name. We are standing with you in prayer, believing God for a miracle in your situation. Keep the faith, and let us know how we can continue to support you.