Anonymous
Beloved of All
I am asking prayer that God would reveal and give me wisdom regarding my current relationship with a guy I have known for almost six years. We have been friends for 5 and a half years. This year we just begin dating and it seems like I can’t trust him. I don’t know why but just something about him I have my doubts. I am hoping for the best to come out of things without thinking negative. However, it is time that I seek prayer for the truth about him and what is really going on between us. I am a virgin woman and I want to wait until marriage before I have sex and or children. He has known this for years now and keeps coming up with many ways plus reasons why I should not keep being like I am. He has tried on several occasions to get me to have sex with him even before we ever dated but I would not. He claims to love, care and respect me yet when it comes to me not having sex with him it seems to be an issue which I am very stern on waiting like I have repeatedly said. We are now dating as of January 2024 and I really really like him. Since I lost both parents and had other stuff happen he took me on a trip out of town. We stayed over night and he wanted to have sex I told him no. He let it go and was respectful I can say that much. Right before we left the hotel the next morning he ask me to please do something about not having sex kindly. He does not like that we are dating without sexing one another and not moving forward to have a family. He feels less of a man for not having a child and more due to his Mother constantly hounding him about it. He is the oldest child and all the kids under him have spouses and kids. His mother knows about me and wonders how we have not been married with a family after all these years of knowing one another. I told him he needs to let his mother know that we been friends and just start dating this year so all the pressure can stop. Well on the way back from our trip he took me on. He said God does not like that I am a virgin, no kids and no husband. Then he tried to say I am gay and or should stay single if I don’t wanna have sex. Then he said I won’t get married or have kids I rebuked all that in Jesus Name. He thinks I am scared to have sex but I am scared of having it without being married and with the wrong man. I have been hurt by family, friends and ex boyfriends before so this time around I really wanna take time not rushing anything. He has a tendency to go days without calling or texting me too. Since we got back in town from our recent trip we came to terms that we will try to work things out as a couple. Yet yesterday he barely wanted to talk to me on the phone, he raised his voice several times on the phone and I had to check him about it too. He apologized and told me he is stressed about not having a family etc how he sees other people with a family and or how they ask him about his love life. I told him we have to figure things out but I noticed he was acting kind of funny toward me when I seen him in person yesterday at the restaurant. Now all of a sudden he is working on the weekends 12 hour shifts and I haven’t heard from him today so far. So my prayer is for God to give me wisdom about this man and our so called relationship in Jesus Name. I am asking for the truth to come to light and for everything I need to do to protect my heart along with relying on God in Jesus Name. I pray nothing bad is going on like cheating etc but I am just not sure about things. So I am calling on God to help me see all for what it is and whether or not I should just walk away from dating him altogether in Jesus Name. I am grieving losing both parents, my siblings and I aren’t seeing eye to eye and now my boyfriend seems to be acting very shady. I can’t afford to be in anymore pain emotionally etc so I need God to help me right now with what to do in Jesus Name Amen. God Bless all that are praying for me as I pray for others too. Just got a lot going on with people I love and care for and I don’t wanna fall into depression.