I am a single mom of three children whom ...

[mwempen]

I am a single mom of three children whom I have raised on my own with the help of my parents. They are 8, 5, and 4. Thier father is out of the picture completely. I met someone who I was wonderful, and found out in October I was expecting my 4th child with him. He has since called me every name in the book, told me to raise the child alone, told me he never wanted a baby with me, he hates me, he asks God what he did in his life to deserve to meet a horrible person like me, and every day it seems to get worse. I tried to reach out to his parents, so I wrote them a letter because I have only met them a few times and I wanted to explain the situation and seek advice about him. They immediately showed him the letter which made him angry and now he says they think I'm lying and a horrible person, and so forth. I am due in April and I'm so scared to raise a 4th child alone. I really need some guidance as to what to do here. I currently go to counseling twice per week, and am trying to be positive but its so hard when he tells me how he feels so bad for the baby being born into this situation, and he feels I'm going to use the baby as a bargaining chip or to take his money. I want nothing more than the hurtful words to stop and to get along. He and I got along so well before we found out I was pregnant. I've tried explaining my feelings over and over, and assuring him I want to just get along, and then the next day it starts again with the "I hate you, you're horrible".

I need guidance on how to fix my situation. I worry that I'm going to be alone, and I worry that this guy really does hate me, and maybe that I really am a horrible person. This has been going on for 6 months and I can hardly eat or sleep, I need peace and reassurance that things will work out. I want this person to be a part of our son's life because I can't raise a 4th child alone. He says he's a Christian, but I don't see it, I wish God would speak to him and help him to see that a baby is a blessing, and that hating anyone is no way to live. Thank you very much for reading and I hope my tears stop soon.

 

[Articles]

May God hear your request and grant it according to his will. In Jesus Name, Amen.

 

[dst1044]

Sistah, I faced the same scenario with my daughter's father. I told him I would raise her on my own. I too was a single parent expecting my 2nd child with a man who denied it to his parents, and was very angry. When I tell you I could not figure out how my needs would be met, GOD stepped in and ALL of my needs were met. I did not get WIC, or food stamps for a long time afterwards. I went out on maternity leave for 4 months without any savings, my rent was $850/month, my car note $300 +, my utiliies were never disconnected, my phone was on all the time, and we had food to eat plus all the diapers and similac came through Blessings from God. A check was always coming from somewhere.

The truth did come out after she was born, I sent them a picture of her. Eventually, he decided to be a part of her life, but I did not force it. I went on my own. If he is a Christian man, his conscientious will  eventually lead him to do the right thing. Let God take care of it. You child does not need the stress that your emotions are creating.

I am telling you the truth, if GOD blessed me like this, I know he will bless you too. I pray that all your needs will be met and you find peace in your decision-in Jesus' name. Amen!

 

[The Encourager]

God I ask in Jesus’ name answer this prayer request according to Your will in Your timing. Amen.

Encourager Linda Flagg, LM, CS

Christian Life Coach & Youth Minister

PS: Don’t fret or worry about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:6-7).

 

[mwempen]

I can't tell you how much your kind words mean to me.  I currently work for a doctor's office and I had a patient tell me about this website and suggest to post on here , and your words made me tear up, but they are more like tears of hope.  Bless you.

 

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