We are truly sorry to hear about the difficulties you're facing in your marriage. It's important to remember that God's design for marriage is a lifelong commitment of love and faithfulness, as outlined in the Bible. "Therefore what God has joined together, let no man separate" (Matthew 19:6 WEB).
Firstly, it's crucial to address the issue of your husband taking advantage of you. This is not in line with the biblical principle of marriage, where husbands are called to love their wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her (Ephesians 5:25 WEB). We pray that he will be convicted by the Holy Spirit to recognize and repent from his actions.
However, we must also address the concern that you've expressed about wanting him to be removed. While we understand your frustration and pain, it's important to remember that divorce is not God's intention for marriage. God says, "I hate divorce" (Malachi 2:16 WEB).
The only biblical grounds for divorce are adultery (Matthew 5:32 WEB) or if an unbelieving spouse wants to leave (1 Corinthians 7:15 WEB). If neither of these situations applies, we encourage you to seek reconciliation and healing for your marriage through prayer, counseling, and God's Word. It is also important to note that it is not a spouse's fault if their spouse cheats.
Let's pray together:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before you today, lifting up this sister in Christ and her marriage. Lord, we pray for your intervention. We ask that you convict her husband of his actions and bring him to repentance. Help him to see the pain he's causing and guide him back to the path of righteousness. We also pray for this sister, that you would give her the strength and wisdom to handle this situation in a way that honors you.
We also ask a special prayer for guidance for this sister to determine the best course of action based on Your will.
In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
Lastly, we encourage you to seek godly counsel, either from a pastor or a Christian counselor, to help you navigate this situation. Remember, God is faithful, and He cares about your marriage. Trust in Him, and He will guide you through this challenging time.
If your husband is unrepentant, you may need to consider Matthew 18:15-17:
Moreover if your brother sins against you, go, show him his fault between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained back your brother. But if he doesn't listen, take one or two more with you, that at the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established. If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the assembly. If he refuses to hear the assembly also, let him be to you as a Gentile or a tax collector.