Husband wants an annulment / divorce again after he talked to his lawyer today

[momowei]

Heavenly Father, I don't know what I can do anymore besides praying. Todd's pushing me away today after I came back to NJ from NC to spend time with him during thanksgiving. We were very sweet and he agreed to call his lawyer today to drop the annulment / divorce case. We planned to move together in NC and planned what jobs we will do. But today, he suddenly attacked me saying he doesn't trust me and how can he trust me? His mood suddenly changed. He said he doesn't know how to marry a person who he can't trust. He said he needs to fast and pray if he wants to stay in this marriage or annulment / divorce. Lord, please don't let the lawyer who just wants money when she's handling divorce to ruin our marriage. Lord, please give me peace or shall I prepare to be divorced when his heart is hardened and mood swing? Lord, please give me peace and sleep well and I drove 12 hours to see him and I lost 3 days paid leave for him to help his house get ready. Lord, please show him the truth that the lawyer just wants money and draw his heart back to me but not one day with me, another day is gone. Be emotionally stable and see God's will. Please bless with him a job so he has income and not to give me all the emotions and be his punching bag. Please help his house sold and his house get ready before Friday for staging. So, he doesn't have stress anymore. Please show him my true heart (I'm truth worthy) and I'm the godly woman for him. Please show me his true heart too. In Jesus Name Amen

 

[Articles]

We understand that you are going through a challenging time in your marriage, and we want to lift you and your husband Todd up in prayer and provide biblical guidance.

Firstly, let's pray:

Dear Heavenly Father, we come before you in the name of Jesus Christ, lifting up our sister momowei and her husband Todd. Lord, you know the struggles they are facing in their marriage. We pray for Your divine intervention, that You would soften Todd's heart and turn it towards his wife. Help him to see the truth and not be swayed by the advice of others that may not align with Your will. Lord, we pray for peace that surpasses all understanding to guard momowei's heart and mind in Christ Jesus. We ask that You would grant her restful sleep and emotional stability during this trial. Lord, we also pray for Todd's job situation, that You would provide him with stable income and that his house would be prepared and sold as needed. Guide them both to see and follow Your will. Encourage them to stand together on the Rock. Teach him how to love her, and give counsel in Jesus. Show them how to pray together, fast together, and have Your Joy in this that he sees it is Your will rather than the enemy's. May Christ and Christ alone be the center of their marriage and hearts.

In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.

Now, let's look at what the Bible says about marriage and reconciliation. Marriage is a lifelong commitment, and God desires for couples to work towards reconciliation and restoration. As the Lord said:

He answered, "Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, 'For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother, and shall be joined to his wife; and the two shall become one flesh?' So that they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate."
Matthew 19:4-6 WEB

Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the assembly, being himself the savior of the body. But as the assembly is subject to Christ, so let the wives also be to their own husbands in everything.
Ephesians 5:22-24 WEB

God has called each wife to be subject to her husband and to respect him and for each husband to love his wife as Christ loves the church. Prayer and fasting is an excellent route of discernment for Todd. God even said husbands may be won over by the behavior of the wife without a word being spoken. Ensure your words and your body language honor the code of God.

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it.
Ephesians 5:25 WEB

It is essential for husbands to love and care for their wives, just as Christ loved and cared for the church. Pray that Todd would understand and follow this command. Just remember to believe that Christ is the one that can only fulfill our needs rather than blaming or being angry with Todd. You are both sinners and will need a savior to help you through this and it will take time.

Pray too for any root of bitterness that may be present that Todd or momowei may have one against the other or anyone else. Though we have not heard the full story, we suggest that there might be unforgiveness or anger in Todd's heart as this is a common problem. We think it is possible that Todd needs to forgive you for something, forgive God for something, or otherwise deal with unforgiveness and some other person or possibly himself. Reading angrier in Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) victims is a common symptom of PTSD. Offer Todd a lesson in forgiveness and have it be from the whole family. Even if it is an apology and forgiveness ceremony. Let him establish a relationship again with your parents or family and vice versa. Make sure his faith is grounded in Jesus and study the Bible together and with him and suggest other men or women who have experience in recovery for Todd and mentor him.

If it is God's will that you and Todd remain married, then trust that He will make a way. If Todd decides to proceed with the annulment or divorce due to lack of forgiveness, then it's possible that the marriage could be broken due to hardness of heart rather than lack of truth or even simply lack of communication. However, this does not give you the right to marry another. Remarriage is only permitted after divorce, biblically speaking, in the case of adultery.

The woman who is divorced shall not marry again. She is to remain single or else be reconciled to her husband
1 Corinthians 7:10-11 WEB

But I tell you that whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and he who marries her when she is divorced commits adultery.
Matthew 19:9 WEB

It is important to remember that if your husband does go through he will only have the option to remarry if there was adultery and it is only possible to the other believers. Otherwise he must remain unmarried or reconcile with you. However, with Christ and Christ alone there is hope. Only with Jesus is the impossible even possible. Pray for archeologists uncovering evidence, doctors witnessing supernatural healing of the human body, those who witness supernatural love with people that should be enemies, or with supernaturally changed hearts and lives in those that do not yet know the Gospel, that Jesus and Jesus alone can even at all supernaturally save Todd's and momowei's marriage you. Continue to pray for Todd. Let us even know how to guide you further. Study and share with Todd all the scriptures on divorce.

We encourage you to keep praying for your marriage in Jesus Christ name, continue to act in a way that is pleasing to God, and trust in Him to work things out according to His will. Keep your heart focused on God and towards reconciliation and restoration of your marriage with the help of Jesus and not there things. It is always wise to talk to your Pastor at your local Christian Church and seek a marriage staff who can help too but remember to never go to a marriage counselor who does not accept the Bible Jesus Christ. As Jesus healed the brokenhearted and you may be one of them but the news or council or unbiblical money seeking counselor who does not know Jesus may even be the wolf who will separate the sheep from the shepherd in this divorce. Jesus healed the brokenhearted.

Remember, nothing is impossible with God and there is no root of bitterness that God can not fix if there is one but he is weary of the prayers of who do not know Christ yet so use this time as for the eternal good. God is not against women and children as Jesus rebuked the Pharisees about divorce. So have hope and If the divorce does go ahead, If you haven't heard the message yet, God does love you and want a relationship with you.

Remember the men people call Christians who do wrong or claim to be a Christian that may scare Todd or you are like an advertisement for satan. And they may be a reason for your marriage problems, Get a mature Christian believing man to guide Todd if he is going to mentor Todd. Todd may need a single not divorced man for fellowship. Talk to your parents too about this. Find the local Pastors who you can talk to about salvation and even submit to Todd when you are struggling with that issue and remind him of this too. Find your hope in that nothing is impossible with Christ but without Christ nothing is even possible. God is the author of marriage and gave it rituals of passion, love, respect, care, protection, time, and help meeting needs. When divorce happens it is a hateful amputation of union. So trust in Him in His good will. May He guide us all.

 

[hostadmin]

Dear momowei,

We're here for you, holding you up in prayer. We're sorry to hear about Todd's sudden change of heart and the stress you're both under. It's tough, but remember, God is still on the throne, and He's got this.

We've been praying for you both, asking God to:

- Soften Todd's heart and help him see the truth.
- Give you peace and emotional stability.
- Provide Todd with a job and help his house sell quickly.
- Guide you both to see and follow God's will for your marriage.

We also want to encourage you. Remember, marriage is a journey, and it's not always easy. But God is faithful, and He's promised to be with you every step of the way. He can turn any situation around, even this one.

Keep trusting in Him, and keep praying. And remember, nothing is impossible with God. He can work miracles in your marriage, just as He has in countless others.

We're here for you, praying for you both. Keep us updated if you'd like, and know that you're not alone in this. God is with you, and so are we.

In Jesus' name, we pray,

[Your Name]

 

[Dweryall]

Praying in Jesus Name.

 

[EnricoLange]

Lord Jesus please richly bless, protect and guide them. Please help them in accordance with your perfect will Father. Thank you and praise you. In your holy name I pray. Amen.

 

[Cinu]

Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

Help in Prayer

Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)

Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)


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[usha rani]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, soul, mind, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, and Your righteousness. Help and strengthen me God to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me. Deliver and cleansed me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the grace and knowledge of Christ Jesus. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by Encourager Linda Flagg, M.A., Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.

 

[hostadmin]

We continue to lift you and your husband Todd up in prayer, especially during this challenging time in your marriage. We are grateful that you have allowed us to stand in agreement with you, interceding on your behalf.

If you have seen improvements in your situation and Todd has had a change of heart, we would be delighted to hear about it. Please share a praise report so that we can all rejoice together in God's faithfulness. If the situation remains unchanged or has worsened, we encourage you to submit a new request, allowing us to continue praying for you both.

We pray fervently that God will soften Todd's heart and remove any doubt or distrust he may have. We ask God to grant you both clarity, peace, and emotional stability during this difficult time. We also pray for Todd's job situation and the sale of his house, believing that God will provide for all his needs.

May God continue to reveal His will for both of your lives, and may His love and grace be evident in your marriage. We pray that Todd will see your true heart and the godly woman you are. We ask all of this in the powerful name of Jesus Christ, trusting that He is more than able to work all things out for your good according to His purpose.