Husband left and dating

Anonymous · Sep 5, 2024

My husband has worked away for most of our marriage. In January he took a position at a company where we could live as a family, we just wanted to wait until this past summer to move. Then my mother died two months ago and that was delayed. Weeks later, I found out he was texting another woman. I was devastated and angry. For background, He has been battling addiction. Both alcohol and drugs for years, and I forgave him time and time again. Two years ago he was arrested for a second time while driving drunk. Since then, I found myself pulling away emotionally but praying and hoping for him to find freedom from his addiction. Now, as I am battling depression after losing my mother suddenly, having to care for my two special needs adult sisters, my teenage boys. My husband decides to stay in the town where he works and started dating a woman he met at a bar. He blames me for it all, because I didn’t love him the way he needed to be loved. He has become verbally and emotionally abusive this last year. I still feel a strong urge to pray for his salvation, I have been. I just want this woman to be gone from his life so I can hope and pray for salvation and reconciliation. Please pray for us

Articles · Sep 5, 2024

We are deeply saddened to hear about the trials you are facing in your marriage and family life. Let us come together in prayer and wisdom from God's Word to address your situation.

Firstly, we acknowledge the pain and heartache you are experiencing due to your husband's infidelity and addiction. It is important to remember that God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16 WEB), and His desire is for marriages to be restored and healed. However, we must also address the sin and disobedience that has entered your marriage.

Your husband's actions—including adultery, addiction, and emotional abuse—are strongly rebuked in the Bible. As it is written, "Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body" (1 Corinthians 6:18 WEB). Additionally, the Bible warns against drunkenness and substance abuse: "Don’t be drunken with wine, in which is dissipation, but be filled with the Spirit" (Ephesians 5:18 WEB).

It is commendable that you continue to pray for your husband's salvation, even in the midst of his wrongdoings. We encourage you to remain steadfast in prayer, but also to seek God's will for your own life and the lives of your family members. Remember, "Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?" (2 Corinthians 6:14 WEB).

We must also address the blame your husband has placed on you. It is not your responsibility to love him in a way that prevents him from sinning. Each person is responsible for their own actions. As it is written, "Each one will bear his own load" (Galatians 6:5 WEB).

Let us pray together:

Dear Heavenly Father,

We come before You today, lifting up our sister who is experiencing deep pain and heartache. Lord, we ask for Your comfort and strength to surround her during this difficult time. We pray for her husband, that he would turn away from his sinful lifestyle and seek Your forgiveness and salvation. We ask that You would remove the influence of the other woman in his life and bring restoration to their marriage, if it is Your will.

Lord, we also pray for our sister's emotional well-being. Help her to find peace, joy, and hope in You, even as she grieves the loss of her mother and cares for her family. We ask that You would guide her steps and provide her with the wisdom and discernment she needs to navigate this challenging situation.

In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.

Lastly, we encourage you to seek support from your local church community and consider Christian counseling to help you through this difficult time. May the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, guard your heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7 WEB).

hostadmin · Sep 5, 2024

We're here with you, sister. We've been where you are, feeling the sting of betrayal and the weight of worry. We understand the struggle to keep hope alive when it feels like everything's crumbling. But remember, God is still on the throne, and He sees you. He sees your pain, your heartache, and your unwavering faith in Him.

We've been praying for you, just as you've been praying for your husband. We're asking God to break the chains of addiction that bind him, to open his eyes to the destruction he's causing, and to soften his heart towards you and your family. We're also asking God to strengthen you, to give you the courage to stand firm in your faith, and to trust Him with the outcome, whatever it may be.

We know it's hard, but we want to remind you of the promise in Psalm 147:3, "He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds." God is a God of healing, and He's right there with you in your pain, ready to bind up your wounds and heal your broken heart.

Let's keep praying together, sister. Let's keep trusting God, even when it's hard. And let's keep reminding each other of His unfailing love and faithfulness. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.

fulloffaith · Sep 5, 2024

Praying in Jesus Name.

Felic · Sep 5, 2024

Praying for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

The Encourager · Sep 6, 2024

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Let Us Pray: God Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus' name to please bless me with everything I stand in need of, and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, soul, mind, strength, and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to prosper, have excellent health, and have an ever growing closer stronger more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always honor, respect, and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, lean not to my own understanding, acknowledge You in all my ways, and allow You to direct my footsteps, actions, and words.

God heal me, body, soul, and spirit. Cleansed me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, pray Your best for me, and all those I love and care about. God please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith. Prayer written by Encourager Linda Flagg, M.A., Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.

hostadmin · Sep 11, 2024

Thank you for giving us the privilege to pray on your behalf. We are glad that that you asked us to stand in agreement with you in prayer. If your request was answered, please post a praise report and let us all know. If your request does not seem to have been answered, please post it again as a new request and allow us to continue with you in prayer. We all hope that our prayers are answered in the way that we want. Sometimes we believe that God is not answering our prayers because we do not see what we expect. In these cases, we should persist in prayer and determine how God is answering our prayer. May God bless you as you continue to seek him through his son, Jesus Christ.