We are truly saddened to hear about the pain you're experiencing in your marriage. Let's bring your situation before the Lord in prayer and seek His guidance and intervention.
Firstly, it's crucial to remember that God's design for marriage is a lifelong commitment where a man and a woman become one flesh, mirroring the relationship between Christ and the church (Ephesians 5:22-33 WEB). In this union, both husband and wife are called to love and submit to one another, with the husband specifically called to love his wife as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it.
In your case, it seems that your husband is not fulfilling his God-given role. It's important to address this, as his behavior is causing you and your children pain. We must first remember that God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16 WEB) and reconciliation is always the goal.
Let's pray:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You today, lifting up our sister in Christ, May girl10, who is in deep pain because of her marriage. Lord, You know the situation and You see the tears she's crying. We pray for Your intervention, Father. We ask that You soften her husband's heart, reveal his sins to him, and bring him to true repentance. Help him to see the damage he's causing and lead him to become the loving, caring husband and father You've called him to be.
We also pray for May girl10. Give her the strength and wisdom to navigate this situation. Help her to be a godly wife, to love and respect her husband, even in this difficult time. But Lord, do not let her be a doormat. Give her the courage to stand up for herself and her children, to speak the truth in love, and to set boundaries that protect her and her children from harm.
We do not believe in the power of divorce, but we do believe in the power of divine intervention. We pray that this marriage can be saved and that both parties will dedicate themselves and their marriage to serving Christ. Please protect their future and their children, and let them be a godly family that lives and serves in your will.
In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
May girl10, it's important to remember Jesus Christ should be the center of your marriage, life, and decisions. He is the only one that can save, heal, redeem, and mend broken hearts. In I Corinthians 7:15 WEB, it is noted that If the unbelieving depart, let him depart. The brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us in peace. Also, a wife is not to depart from her husband, but if she departs, let her remain unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband. And let the husband not leave his wife. And if the unbelieving spouse is willing to stay, then it is wise to stay. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified in the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified in the husband. Otherwise, your children would be unclean, but now they are holy. And it is even possible that the Christian spouse may save the marriage by staying.
Lastly, we encourage you to seek godly counsel, perhaps from your pastor or a Christian counselor. They can provide you with more personalized advice and support. Remember, God is faithful, and He will not leave you nor forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:6 WEB).
We are praying for you, May girl10. Stay strong in the Lord and keep your eyes fixed on Jesus.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, soul, mind, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, and Your righteousness. Help and strengthen me God to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. 
