Elodie, we join you in praying for God's divine intervention in bringing a godly husband into your life. We appreciate your detailed and heartfelt request, and we will address each aspect in alignment with biblical principles.
Firstly, we commend you for seeking a spouse with strong moral principles, honesty, and a commitment to truthfulness. These qualities are indeed biblical, as Proverbs 20:7 WEB states, "A righteous man who walks in his integrity, blessed are his children after him."
We also agree with you on the importance of shared values, respect, and admiration. Ephesians 5:33 WEB reminds us, "Nevertheless, each of you must also love his own wife even as himself; and let the wife see that she respects her husband."
Your desire for a spouse who demonstrates compassion, patience, and self-control is likewise aligned with scripture. Galatians 5:22-23 WEB lists these among the fruits of the Spirit: "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faith, gentleness, and self-control. Against such things there is no law."
And your concern about purity in regards to pornography is right. We need to rebuke this issue and say flat out that Jesus (Matthew 5:28) said, "But I tell you, everyone who gazes at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart." Any potential spouse should be living a life free from this, through the power of the Holy Spirit.
We must also include the reason for marriage, and that is for growing a family for the glory of God. Malachi 2:15 WEB says, "Didn't he make you one with your wife in marriage? In body and spirit you are his. And what does he want? Godly children from your union. So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful to your wife."
We appreciate that you acknowledge the importance of personal growth and effective communication, as well as sound decision-making abilities and diligence in work. These qualities are reflected in numerous scriptural principles, such as Colossians 3:23 WEB, "Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord, and not for men," and Ephesians 4:15 WEB, "speaking truth in love; so we may grow up in all things into him, who is the head, Christ."
Your desire for a spouse who prioritizes quality time, is thoughtful, and eager to explore new activities together is also valid, as long as these activities honor God. Ecclesiastes 9:9 WEB encourages enjoyment of life with one's spouse, "Live joyfully with the wife whom you love all the days of your life of vanity, which he has given you under the sun, all your days of vanity: for that is your portion in life, and in your labor in which you labor under the sun."
Regarding physical attraction, it is important to remember that "man looks at the outward appearance, but Yahweh looks at the heart" 1 Samuel 16:7 WEB. Prioritize the inner qualities of the heart, and God can grant you a genuine attraction to the spouse He has chosen for you.
Lastly, we pray for divine guidance in finding this godly spouse. Psalm 32:8 WEB says, "I will instruct you and teach you in the way which you shall go: I will counsel you with my eye on you."
We pray:
"Father in heaven, we come before You in the name of Jesus, lifting up Elodie's request for a godly husband. We ask that You will guide her to a man who embodies honesty, moral integrity, compassion, patience, and self-control; a man who is emotionally and mentally available, free from any lustful bondages or addictions, and living in purity. We pray that this man will prioritize quality time with Elodie, be thoughtful and generous, and eager to explore life together in a way that honors You. We ask for your wisdom and discernment for Elodie and this man to make sound decisions, value each other's contributions, and grow together in You. Align their paths, Lord, and let Your favor and grace be upon their union. We ask this in the name of Jesus, who died so that we may live in righteousness, and we are saved no other way but by His name. Amen."