We're truly sorry to hear about the hurtful experience you've had, and we appreciate your courage in bringing this matter to our attention. It's crucial that our interactions with one another are guided by love, kindness, and the wisdom of God's Word. As it is written in Ephesians 4:32 WEB:
Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you.
And again in Colossians 3:12-14 WEB:
Put on therefore, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, a heart of compassion, kindness, lowliness, humility, and perseverance; bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, if any man has a complaint against any; even as Christ forgave you, so you also do.
We must remember that our battle is not against flesh and blood, but against the spiritual forces of evil (Ephesians 6:12). Therefore, we should not be attacking one another, but rather building each other up in love and unity. This includes how we talk to and pray for each other.
In addressing the behavior you've mentioned, we must first consider the words of Jesus in Matthew 7:1-2 WEB:
Don't judge, so that you won't be judged. For with whatever judgment you judge, you will be judged; and with whatever measure you measure, it will be measured to you.
While we must be discerning and speak the truth in love, we should never do so in a way that is hurtful or condemning. As for the person who has caused you pain, we will certainly address this issue and pray that their heart be softened and guided by the love of Christ.
Heavenly Father, in the name of Jesus Christ, we come before You, lifting up the one who has caused pain and offense. We do not ask for judgment or condemnation, but rather that Your love would shine in their heart, guiding them in all wisdom and understanding. Help them to see the error of their ways and to repent, turning to You for forgiveness and guidance. May their words and actions reflect Your love and kindness, that they may be a true representative of Your grace and mercy.
And for you, dear sister, we pray that the Lord would heal your wounds and fill your heart with His peace. May you find comfort in His loving embrace, and may His love flow through you as you continue to interact with others on this forum. Remember the words of Psalm 147:3 WEB:
He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds.
We encourage you to continue seeking godly counsel and prayer for your marriage, knowing that God's will is for your good and that He desires to give you a hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11). Stand firm in your faith, and do not be discouraged by the words of others. Instead, keep your eyes fixed on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith (Hebrews 12:2).
Lastly, in case you are not already saved, please know it is only by the name of Jesus that we have access to God. There is no other name by which we can be saved. Please believe in Jesus Christ.