"How can I trust my husband after he had a three long emotional affair?"

[Phyll]

Six months ago I discovered that my husband of ### years had been having an emotional affair with a much younger married woman from our church for more than three years. I had been suspicious during all that time and I challenged him most weeks but he just lied and lied over and over again. The last six months have been unbearable. He says he’s sorry, sorry, sorry and that he loves me. I have forgiven him but I don’t know how I’m ever going to be able to trust him again. I’m in a perpetual nightmare.

 

[Articles]

We are truly heartbroken to hear about the pain and betrayal you've experienced. It will take much effort to regain the trust and forgiveness you have already begun to give. Marriage is a sacred bond, and it's clear that your husband has broken that trust.

Firstly, we must remember that God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16 WEB) and has called us to live in peace with each other (Romans 12:18 WEB). It is commendable that you have forgiven your husband, as the Bible tells us to forgive as we have been forgiven (Ephesians 4:32 WEB). It is only the beginning though.

Trust is rebuilt over time, through consistent actions and honesty. It's important that your husband understands this and is committed to rebuilding that trust.

You've mentioned that he's been saying he's sorry, but actions speak louder than words. We need to see true repentance. This means he has to turn away from his sin and towards God. He should be willing to do whatever it takes to rebuild your trust, including being completely transparent and accountable.

Your husband needs to understand the gravity of his actions. He has sinned against you and against God. It's important that he confesses his sin and turns away completely away from the other women or situations that are leading him to do this. He must not do this just out of regret or because he was caught. The adulteress woman is also at fault and she needs to ask for forgiveness from the church as well. He needs to know that what he did is a sin and he needs to repent from this. Remember that Jesus Himself said, "But I tell you, that whoever looks at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart" (Matthew 5:28 WEB).

The Bible tells us to confess our sins to one another (James 5:16 WEB). This means you need to work this out together and your husband needs to prove himself trustworthy again.

We advise that you both seek godly counsel, either from your pastor or a Christian counselor. They can provide guidance and support as you navigate this difficult time.

Let's pray together:

Dear Heavenly Father,

We come before you, lifting up this sister in Christ who is hurting and struggling with trust. We pray for her husband, that he would truly repent and turn away from his sin. Help him understand the true gravity of his actions and the pain he has caused. Give him the strength and guidance to rebuild the trust he has broken.

Father, we pray for this marriage. We ask that You would heal the wounds and restore what has been broken. We know that with you, all things are possible. We pray for forgiveness, for healing, and for restoration.

In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.

 

[hostadmin]

We've been thinking about you and your situation, and our hearts go out to you. It's understandable that you're struggling with trust after what's happened. We want you to know that we're here for you, praying for you and your husband.

We believe that God is a God of second chances, and we've seen marriages restored and trust rebuilt. It won't be easy, and it won't happen overnight, but with God's help, it's possible. We're reminded of the story of Peter, who denied Jesus three times, but Jesus restored him and used him mightily.

We encourage you to keep communicating openly with your husband. It's important to express your feelings, but also to listen to his perspective. Remember, trust is like a bank account. It takes time to build it up, and it can be lost quickly. Rebuilding it will take time, patience, and consistency.

We also suggest that you both consider reading "The Love Dare" by Alex and Stephen Kendrick. It's a 40-day challenge that can help you both understand and practice unconditional love, which is key to rebuilding trust.

Let's keep praying together:

Dear Heavenly Father, we lift up our sister and her husband to You. We ask that You would give them both a spirit of forgiveness and understanding. Help them to communicate openly and honestly, and to listen to each other's hearts. Give them the strength to rebuild their trust, one step at a time. We ask this in Jesus' name, Amen.

 

[Phyll]

Thank you so much for the honest and encouraging replies to me. I would also like to thank you for your sensitive prayers. You don’t know me but to care so much about me has blown me away. Thank you.

 

[Windwold]

Praying for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Saraha]

Praying for you. Heavenly Father hear our prayers. In Jesus Name I Pray Amen

 

[bobr69]

Praying in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You. Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, and Your righteousness. Help and strengthen me God to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the grace and knowledge of Christ Jesus. Transform and renew my mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager, Woman of God, Prayer Warrior, Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.

God Is In Control

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[Cinu]

Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

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Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)

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[usha rani]

Praying for this in Jesus Name. Amen.